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Autism and really struggling to make and keep friends

Marsi

I feel isolated sometimes, and I think about why I can't make friends and then I'm stumped. It doesn't help I have agoraphobia due to trauma. Like how do you make friends? And how do you keep them. I'm largely not bothered by lack of friends and family but I have found when my partner is out for the day I have no one to talk to. And I'm left to dissociate(trying to get that under control) 

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  • Hi welcome to the community!

    i also have problems making friends, here where Ive been living for almost 6 years already I have not even one friend. While exploring autism I understood that it’s for few reasons. My communication differences, I don’t react to other people’s emotions even if I recognize and understand them. It’s also due to my routine. Seeing someone disturbs my routine. It feels bad and it always felt bad, even when I was masking, I still felt that I go to see someone because I have to to stop being the weirdo and loner, but I wished I could just sit in my room and do my favorite thing like always. It’s also because of my slower processing, poor eye contact and probably few other reasons. This forum kind of satisfies my need of communication although sometimes I also feel I don’t belong here but it’s quite common here as I can see. I love giving long monologue speeches, if I’m left alone for a day it can last 5 hours. And during that time I forget everything. So if I have a possibility, and if I’m alone I do it sometime. I’m not sure if it’s good, but it’s kinda therapeutic for me. Nobody would have endured a 5 hour long tirades about my special interest, so I do it when I’m alone and I imagine there is someone who listens I also dissociate a lot. I think you may need help with your trauma and agoraphobia. 
    i hope you find support and connections here. 

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  • Hi welcome to the community!

    i also have problems making friends, here where Ive been living for almost 6 years already I have not even one friend. While exploring autism I understood that it’s for few reasons. My communication differences, I don’t react to other people’s emotions even if I recognize and understand them. It’s also due to my routine. Seeing someone disturbs my routine. It feels bad and it always felt bad, even when I was masking, I still felt that I go to see someone because I have to to stop being the weirdo and loner, but I wished I could just sit in my room and do my favorite thing like always. It’s also because of my slower processing, poor eye contact and probably few other reasons. This forum kind of satisfies my need of communication although sometimes I also feel I don’t belong here but it’s quite common here as I can see. I love giving long monologue speeches, if I’m left alone for a day it can last 5 hours. And during that time I forget everything. So if I have a possibility, and if I’m alone I do it sometime. I’m not sure if it’s good, but it’s kinda therapeutic for me. Nobody would have endured a 5 hour long tirades about my special interest, so I do it when I’m alone and I imagine there is someone who listens I also dissociate a lot. I think you may need help with your trauma and agoraphobia. 
    i hope you find support and connections here. 

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