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How do you perceive how others perceive you, vs how they do actually see you?

IndigoMandala

So, 

I kind of perceive myself to others as a shadow. You know when Frodo puts the ring of power on? That's how i view and see in life. Almost like a ghost really....I started to think what people may feel like after a conversation with myself. Being in my presence. I think i would feel abit like......'whoaaah, something IS OFF with this guy!!!' Lol it's funny because I've never had a sense of 'myself' before really.

But, I wore a mask to kind of protect myself. 'Dont think about what other people think of you'......That was my mantra because no people cared about. I was unlovable (both untrue)....and boy did i care what others felt about me. All the goddam time.

Anyway, as i open up abit more. I can see how others can see me a little bit more.

Anyone else have similar thoughts? Or am i nuts lol

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  • I suspect people see me as kind and well meaning and liable to put my foot in it.

    I'm sort of invisible when it comes to socialising, I don't really do going out, I don't drink alcohol, there's loads of things I can't eat, I often don't feel safe when I'm in places like pubs and I can't hear properly when theres too many people all talking at once. My few friends sometimes ask me out, out of politeness, knowing I will say no, but I'm happy for them to go places without me

    Oh and they all think I'm massively intelligent and far more knowlegable than them which I think puts a barrier up between us, but I do get used as a walking google/wikipedia.

    I of course torture myself after almost every social interaction looking for things I might have done wrong, that could be misinterpreted and that generaly I'm bad and wrong and shouldn't be let out in public.

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  • I suspect people see me as kind and well meaning and liable to put my foot in it.

    I'm sort of invisible when it comes to socialising, I don't really do going out, I don't drink alcohol, there's loads of things I can't eat, I often don't feel safe when I'm in places like pubs and I can't hear properly when theres too many people all talking at once. My few friends sometimes ask me out, out of politeness, knowing I will say no, but I'm happy for them to go places without me

    Oh and they all think I'm massively intelligent and far more knowlegable than them which I think puts a barrier up between us, but I do get used as a walking google/wikipedia.

    I of course torture myself after almost every social interaction looking for things I might have done wrong, that could be misinterpreted and that generaly I'm bad and wrong and shouldn't be let out in public.

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