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How do you perceive how others perceive you, vs how they do actually see you?

IndigoMandala

So, 

I kind of perceive myself to others as a shadow. You know when Frodo puts the ring of power on? That's how i view and see in life. Almost like a ghost really....I started to think what people may feel like after a conversation with myself. Being in my presence. I think i would feel abit like......'whoaaah, something IS OFF with this guy!!!' Lol it's funny because I've never had a sense of 'myself' before really.

But, I wore a mask to kind of protect myself. 'Dont think about what other people think of you'......That was my mantra because no people cared about. I was unlovable (both untrue)....and boy did i care what others felt about me. All the goddam time.

Anyway, as i open up abit more. I can see how others can see me a little bit more.

Anyone else have similar thoughts? Or am i nuts lol

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  • IRL I'm not the sort of person that other people like and want to be friends with.

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    I only have a couple of friends who I meet up with irl. Used to be 3 but now she's got a dog and can't travel and we live in different parts of the country. My partner has a couple of friends that we both see sometimes, but not regularly. So, not a big social circle, but I think I'm lucky to have kept any friends when I'm so bad at replying to messages and being ok to go into town to meet them.

    I think it's harder in this day and age to meet new people irl and actually connect. There are possibilities with groups that meet based on interests. My one friend is very into art, which started when she was committed and the psychiatrist sent her to art therapy.

    She goes to a couple  of groups/classes regularly and has made friends that way. She's not autistic but has social problems due to schizophrenia and paranoid delusions which are sometimes really bad for her. Classes worked for her to make friends though so might be something to consider. 

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    I only have a couple of friends who I meet up with irl. Used to be 3 but now she's got a dog and can't travel and we live in different parts of the country. My partner has a couple of friends that we both see sometimes, but not regularly. So, not a big social circle, but I think I'm lucky to have kept any friends when I'm so bad at replying to messages and being ok to go into town to meet them.

    I think it's harder in this day and age to meet new people irl and actually connect. There are possibilities with groups that meet based on interests. My one friend is very into art, which started when she was committed and the psychiatrist sent her to art therapy.

    She goes to a couple  of groups/classes regularly and has made friends that way. She's not autistic but has social problems due to schizophrenia and paranoid delusions which are sometimes really bad for her. Classes worked for her to make friends though so might be something to consider. 

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