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Being a bridesmaid when on spectrum for friend wedding

Rainbowgirl

Hi everyone 

I have been asked by a friend to be a bridesmaid for her wedding and I am really nervous about the whole thing.  I am not keen on noisy environments and looking to get loop earplugs so I can still speak to people.  My family will be there but I still find awkward around strangers and I always mask to fit in.  I am just nervous about whole thing and I have only just recovering from Christmas its just all so overwhelming and yet I want to enjoy it. 

I was wondering if anyone had any advice? 

  

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  • Weddings can be a lot even for people who enjoy big social situations, so it makes total sense that being a bridesmaid feels overwhelming when you are on the spectrum. The best thing you can do is set clear expectations with the bride so you know exactly what parts you are expected to be involved in and where you can take breaks if you need them. Most good friends are very understanding once you explain what helps and what doesn’t.

    Bring your loop earplugs, have a quiet spot picked out ahead of time and do not feel guilty about stepping away when your brain needs a reset. You do not have to be “on” the whole day just because you have a title.

    And if the reception or after-party ends up too loud or chaotic, some people create a calmer side-area with something relaxing to do. I have even seen folks Hire cigar roller for the outdoor section which gave guests a laid back space away from the noise. The point is to structure the day in a way that lets you enjoy it without burning yourself out.

    Be kind to yourself and take things at your own pace. That is completely valid.

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  • Weddings can be a lot even for people who enjoy big social situations, so it makes total sense that being a bridesmaid feels overwhelming when you are on the spectrum. The best thing you can do is set clear expectations with the bride so you know exactly what parts you are expected to be involved in and where you can take breaks if you need them. Most good friends are very understanding once you explain what helps and what doesn’t.

    Bring your loop earplugs, have a quiet spot picked out ahead of time and do not feel guilty about stepping away when your brain needs a reset. You do not have to be “on” the whole day just because you have a title.

    And if the reception or after-party ends up too loud or chaotic, some people create a calmer side-area with something relaxing to do. I have even seen folks Hire cigar roller for the outdoor section which gave guests a laid back space away from the noise. The point is to structure the day in a way that lets you enjoy it without burning yourself out.

    Be kind to yourself and take things at your own pace. That is completely valid.

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