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Being a bridesmaid when on spectrum for friend wedding

Rainbowgirl

Hi everyone 

I have been asked by a friend to be a bridesmaid for her wedding and I am really nervous about the whole thing.  I am not keen on noisy environments and looking to get loop earplugs so I can still speak to people.  My family will be there but I still find awkward around strangers and I always mask to fit in.  I am just nervous about whole thing and I have only just recovering from Christmas its just all so overwhelming and yet I want to enjoy it. 

I was wondering if anyone had any advice? 

  

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  • Preparing as much as you can sounds like good advice to me, the fewer surprises the better - but also be aware that sometimes weddings don't go to plan! If your friend understands you, let them know how you're feeling anxious but also want to help.

    I mean this with respect, but I think nearly all of the attention on the day will be directed towards your friend as it is their wedding, maybe that helps take off some of the pressure off you. When I feel anxious about something, I write down a list of all the things my anxiety is telling me will go wrong, then I force myself to be more objective and think how likely is any of that going to be or how I can get around it. Our worries tend to inflate more because our thoughts naturally don't match reality.

    If you're really wanting to be there for your friend (which it sounds like you do), then perhaps just focus on supporting them on their day as best you can, maybe having that focus can help you get through it and then plan how you'll recover - like maybe leave earlier than others, spending the next day as a quiet day etc.

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  • Preparing as much as you can sounds like good advice to me, the fewer surprises the better - but also be aware that sometimes weddings don't go to plan! If your friend understands you, let them know how you're feeling anxious but also want to help.

    I mean this with respect, but I think nearly all of the attention on the day will be directed towards your friend as it is their wedding, maybe that helps take off some of the pressure off you. When I feel anxious about something, I write down a list of all the things my anxiety is telling me will go wrong, then I force myself to be more objective and think how likely is any of that going to be or how I can get around it. Our worries tend to inflate more because our thoughts naturally don't match reality.

    If you're really wanting to be there for your friend (which it sounds like you do), then perhaps just focus on supporting them on their day as best you can, maybe having that focus can help you get through it and then plan how you'll recover - like maybe leave earlier than others, spending the next day as a quiet day etc.

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