I noticed, that I can fit in (not always) only with neurodivergent company. Not necessarily only autistic, but some folks with adhd or other conditions, I remember having somehow better relations to people at work or university who had learning disabilities, autism, adhd, turner syndrome etc. our topics were non standard I with them I didn’t have to pretend I also noticed that they struggle often similarly to me. At that time I had no idea about neurodiversity, but as I recall… I’m a magnet for ND people, which is good. And they also somehow trust me, they often come themselves to talk, they disclose their diagnosis etc. once a colleague told me, he has Asperger syndrome, I told him, ok I have Tourette syndrome. Then we laughed that we are a company with syndromes and promised each other to not tell anyone, only the boss knew about his dx, I didn’t even mention mine. Sometimes I feel that I don’t fit absolutely anywhere. Here on this site I also sometimes feel it’s not my place, I already know the reasons but will keep it for myself.
I noticed, that I can fit in (not always) only with neurodivergent company. Not necessarily only autistic, but some folks with adhd or other conditions, I remember having somehow better relations to people at work or university who had learning disabilities, autism, adhd, turner syndrome etc. our topics were non standard I with them I didn’t have to pretend I also noticed that they struggle often similarly to me. At that time I had no idea about neurodiversity, but as I recall… I’m a magnet for ND people, which is good. And they also somehow trust me, they often come themselves to talk, they disclose their diagnosis etc. once a colleague told me, he has Asperger syndrome, I told him, ok I have Tourette syndrome. Then we laughed that we are a company with syndromes and promised each other to not tell anyone, only the boss knew about his dx, I didn’t even mention mine. Sometimes I feel that I don’t fit absolutely anywhere. Here on this site I also sometimes feel it’s not my place, I already know the reasons but will keep it for myself.
Finding this forum has been so helpful for me because I really feel an affinity with other autistic and neurodivergent people. It’s been such a relief to find people who I and my family have a lot of common ground with. As someone on here said to me yesterday: it feels validating to talk to people on here. People are so understanding and supportive - and genuinely offer very insightful and helpful advice. I’m so grateful for that.
I struggle to identify with other autistic persons here. Whilst I know that all autistic persons aren't the same, the inability to identify with others here makes for a lot of anxiety and perplexity.
