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****I'm not english speaker

I want to know, I can't go to terpaist. 

I did all the web test, I read, hear, yes it was in my childhood, efect my life, the question is- what.

must say I don't want to change, I never did. I'm not like others - they have problem, they should try to change. I have almost every deatail I read, but not problem to understand jokes.. I read somewhere that some aut' have problem to reconize faces - I have this, I can't remember faces. I will lost in my way, I will drive the same place and will lost the way. it's funny. no friends, eating same food every day, all my life someone will say you speak too load or too quiet, I speak too much - but isn't it becouse I have no one to talk?

after I read and read I notice I speak like I'm in a tv series. I copy others to know how should I talk or write. I remeber people asking if everything ok "becouse you don't look at me". I learn I need to look at them. I feel and behave like a child. I never knew how people know what to do or say (becouse thay have friend??), why they want to do. 

ect

I'm not sad. till I read. I wish I never read about auti' becouse now I wonder what the others think about me. I start notice things, instead thinking I'm special. I can't imagen anymore.

I will never ask for "help", why are you agree to be in lower class? can it be something else, what if every person in the world will check imself maybe it's fil to all? whats the big issu to speak load or quiet... 

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  • Pupi, it's a shock fidning out, but it wears off after about 4 years it seems, then you finally feel more like your old self again.

    Your brain does have to make some big adjustments and changes, which isn't very pleasant, but I think I've come out of it better than I went in. My partner seems happier overall, now too, knowing that some of the things I do "wrong" I really can't do "right". Knowing makes my apologies seem less like "excuses", for a start. Because she isn't being so critical about my failings, soemhow I feel MORE motivated to n make them too, so we both seem to be winning a it more in the relationship than we were. That's been good. 

    I am really challenged by "deadlines" and "Rememberng to do things" and whilst I keep my mouth shut about teh Autism/ADD as much as I can, (I'm late, so what? I did a better job than the last guy!. etc.) if I decide that my half hidden failings are likely to really cause a serious issue rather than annoyance, I'll admit my weakness in these areas, and (if I can) specify what support I need In order to play my role sucessfully. 

    BUT there is really NO ADVANTAGE to anyone it telling people who really don't need to know, they just start seeing you as an Autist and wondering what you will do next... (At best!)

    Thank you for this interesting thread.  

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  • Pupi, it's a shock fidning out, but it wears off after about 4 years it seems, then you finally feel more like your old self again.

    Your brain does have to make some big adjustments and changes, which isn't very pleasant, but I think I've come out of it better than I went in. My partner seems happier overall, now too, knowing that some of the things I do "wrong" I really can't do "right". Knowing makes my apologies seem less like "excuses", for a start. Because she isn't being so critical about my failings, soemhow I feel MORE motivated to n make them too, so we both seem to be winning a it more in the relationship than we were. That's been good. 

    I am really challenged by "deadlines" and "Rememberng to do things" and whilst I keep my mouth shut about teh Autism/ADD as much as I can, (I'm late, so what? I did a better job than the last guy!. etc.) if I decide that my half hidden failings are likely to really cause a serious issue rather than annoyance, I'll admit my weakness in these areas, and (if I can) specify what support I need In order to play my role sucessfully. 

    BUT there is really NO ADVANTAGE to anyone it telling people who really don't need to know, they just start seeing you as an Autist and wondering what you will do next... (At best!)

    Thank you for this interesting thread.  

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