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What confirmed your own autism suspicions?

Violetfred

Hello, I am very new to all this, so please forgive any faux-pa's I make regarding post-etiquette. 

I am awaiting autism  diagnosis on the NHS. I have read up extensively on the classic signs, but I am curious what specifically confirmed it for you.¹ I have made many analogies to people over the years, as I have struggled to find a cause for what I believe is behind my decades-long battle with anxiety and depression. I am 52 years old

It is like you are walking around in a big spacesuit. You can perform basic tasks but are unable to interact with people on an intimate level. They see you, but are unaware you are in this suit. It's frustrating, as you can see people living their lives, while you can only watch. 

This is the best description of how I feel and it is a desperately lonely place to be. I often contemplate the point of it all when It seems an impossible problem to conquer in an ever increasingly complicated world.

Apologies for the ramble, but it would be nice to know I'm not alone.

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  • the age. I'm also new here. the age becouse I can't explain anymore why I'm so.. strange? (I'm not an english speaker). But I read here - everybody want to chage. I don't want something will change, not in my life. I will be happy that all the others will change. I feel bad not becouse of me, it's always about what I know that people think about me. and, I don't have fear, I'm not sad, ... maybe its not ASD? I read and almost anything its "me". all the major things. can someone be weird but normal?

  • in reply to pupi
    pupi said:
    can someone be weird but normal?

    I think the definition of an autist could be exactly this sometimes.

    We are weird compated to neurotypical people but normal for most other autists.

  • in reply to Iain

    but can someone be weird - not autists. I try askng for myself. what was till 20 years ago. where is the line. 

  • in reply to pupi
    pupi said:
    it seem that if you autistic you are - I don't know how to say, so i'll use - "good boy".

    There are plenty of "bad boys" with autism. A few people on here have matched this label in their lives (even me) where we break societies rules, can do illegal things, treat people badly etc.

    It is possible to have more than one neurodiverse condition so your traits may be partly explained by autism and partly by another condition (eg ADHD, bipolar etc).

    It takes a trained and experienced professional to work out what is the situation so I would try to find one with a LOT of experience and work with them to find out.

    Once you know exactly what your situation is then you can work out how best to deal with each of the things causing you problems.

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  • in reply to pupi
    pupi said:
    it seem that if you autistic you are - I don't know how to say, so i'll use - "good boy".

    There are plenty of "bad boys" with autism. A few people on here have matched this label in their lives (even me) where we break societies rules, can do illegal things, treat people badly etc.

    It is possible to have more than one neurodiverse condition so your traits may be partly explained by autism and partly by another condition (eg ADHD, bipolar etc).

    It takes a trained and experienced professional to work out what is the situation so I would try to find one with a LOT of experience and work with them to find out.

    Once you know exactly what your situation is then you can work out how best to deal with each of the things causing you problems.

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