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Does being a good (step) dad,granddad, and great granddad(in their eyes) make up for being an abject failure in so many other ways such things are usually defined? Some people get over childhood & teenage bullying and achieve great things. I lacked the inner strength to do so
A situation not helped,no doubt, by far too may years of poor recognition of needs and things I struggle with. But others do well despite that. I can't genuinely say I feel depressed,beyond a dip in mood that's probably SAD. What I can say is that I feel useless and worthless a lot of the time.
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  • I don’t think that making up for anything is necessary. The only person in front of which you have to justify anything is yourself, but maybe that’s the biggest problem here. Try to be a bit more forgiving when judging yourself. You’re alive, that’s great! There’s no set goal you have to achieve, no agenda you have to live up to. Still, it honestly sounds like you actually have achieved a lot, more than many hope for, just by being a great human being. I wonder how many lives besides those of your family members were positively affected by your presence. Look at yourself and you’ll see a very successful surviver and that’s all anyone should be expecting from you for the entirety of your life.

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  • I don’t think that making up for anything is necessary. The only person in front of which you have to justify anything is yourself, but maybe that’s the biggest problem here. Try to be a bit more forgiving when judging yourself. You’re alive, that’s great! There’s no set goal you have to achieve, no agenda you have to live up to. Still, it honestly sounds like you actually have achieved a lot, more than many hope for, just by being a great human being. I wonder how many lives besides those of your family members were positively affected by your presence. Look at yourself and you’ll see a very successful surviver and that’s all anyone should be expecting from you for the entirety of your life.

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