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Self esteem advice

SNickley

I’ve been really struggling with my self esteem for ages, I’ve been undiagnosed with autism for 19 years. My recent diagnosis makes sense and helps me understand but I still have low self esteem especially in meltdowns. I get frustrated at myself a lot and don’t like how I feel and sometimes feel like my meltdowns wasting my time. I also feel like  bother other people if I’m out with them and suppose to do something but end up having a meltdown and get frustrated at how I feel like my autistic traits limits me compared to neurotypical people. I really want to start liking myself and accepting this any advice would be appreciated Purple heart

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  • It's important to remember that everyone is good at something. Here are some common strengths of autistic people:

    Excellent memory

    Attention to detail

    Honest and direct communication

    Extensive knowledge about topics of interest

    Logical and independent thinking

    Hyperfocus

    A strong sense of justice

    Creative

    Good problem solving skills

    Loyal

    Autistic people are needed in society because neurotypical people often struggle with things that we are good at. For example, NT people are good at seeing the big picture but often lack attention to detail. Everyone is unique and everyone has different strengths and different things they are not so good at.

    Other ways of dealing with self esteem are to try not spend much time with people who make you feel inferior, to create a schedule so that you know in advance what you are doing at what time (to increase confidence and reduce anxiety) and to try to think of at least one positive thing that happened each day. We have a thread running called "3 good things" so if you feel ok about sharing, you could do a post on that thread a couple of times a week.

    I hope that as you learn more about yourself, you soon start to feel better about yourself.

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  • It's important to remember that everyone is good at something. Here are some common strengths of autistic people:

    Excellent memory

    Attention to detail

    Honest and direct communication

    Extensive knowledge about topics of interest

    Logical and independent thinking

    Hyperfocus

    A strong sense of justice

    Creative

    Good problem solving skills

    Loyal

    Autistic people are needed in society because neurotypical people often struggle with things that we are good at. For example, NT people are good at seeing the big picture but often lack attention to detail. Everyone is unique and everyone has different strengths and different things they are not so good at.

    Other ways of dealing with self esteem are to try not spend much time with people who make you feel inferior, to create a schedule so that you know in advance what you are doing at what time (to increase confidence and reduce anxiety) and to try to think of at least one positive thing that happened each day. We have a thread running called "3 good things" so if you feel ok about sharing, you could do a post on that thread a couple of times a week.

    I hope that as you learn more about yourself, you soon start to feel better about yourself.

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