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Am I being too sensitive?

Allie🖤

Family has gathered for the Holidays and I’m already feeling uncomfortable as the only autistic person involved.

The conversation somehow leads to autism, my sister and her boyfriend begin talking about how someone had told them that they both have “autistic traits”. (Personally, I feel that they’re both very neurotypical.) They joke and sneer as is they’ve been insulted, as if being autistic is the worst thing you can be called. Right in front of me. 

Both of them are fully aware that I have a diagnosis, yet they don’t see a problem with what they’re saying. My parents then continue to say “they didn’t mean it to upset you”… but it did upset me, it upset me a lot. 

I feel belittled and like my feelings don’t matter. I feel like I should just shut up and deal with it. I feel so upset and I don’t want to be around anyone. Am I being over dramatic? Am I being stupid? 

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  • You're not stupid at all. It's ok to feel upset over it. What they are staying it's not ok. This has actually happened to me a lot, I've ended up in meltdowns a lot of the time upset over it with what they said going around my head on a loop. 

    If you are also looking for advice on how to deal with it is realising that with some people they just don't fully realise what they are saying and often just pick stuff up off other people 'just because other people said it i'll say it to make convocation'. Lots of people make comments not only about autism which are not ok likes racism, sexism, sexualities. It's hard to think sometimes about something that effects you but maybe try to think of it if they was making a comment about other people: It's not ok at all and not what everyone says is true (like making autism seem as it is a bad thing to have). I believe the best thing to do, that can be helpful that when these conisations come up, is that you don't respond with anything back or if you feel brave question it. I know this may be hard to do but I often see it as not sticking up for myself but also other people because your not the only autistic person there is. I don't think there is nothing wrong with autistic people i've met, in fact I feel like they are sometimes the most caring and thoughtful people, something you could maybe have said in that situation is 'what's wrong if you was autistic?'. When people hear these questions it then makes them actually think about what they said., when a lot of the time people don't. Personally, after I started question people they started to stop and actually think about what they say more and not just say things. 

    Hope that helps

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  • You're not stupid at all. It's ok to feel upset over it. What they are staying it's not ok. This has actually happened to me a lot, I've ended up in meltdowns a lot of the time upset over it with what they said going around my head on a loop. 

    If you are also looking for advice on how to deal with it is realising that with some people they just don't fully realise what they are saying and often just pick stuff up off other people 'just because other people said it i'll say it to make convocation'. Lots of people make comments not only about autism which are not ok likes racism, sexism, sexualities. It's hard to think sometimes about something that effects you but maybe try to think of it if they was making a comment about other people: It's not ok at all and not what everyone says is true (like making autism seem as it is a bad thing to have). I believe the best thing to do, that can be helpful that when these conisations come up, is that you don't respond with anything back or if you feel brave question it. I know this may be hard to do but I often see it as not sticking up for myself but also other people because your not the only autistic person there is. I don't think there is nothing wrong with autistic people i've met, in fact I feel like they are sometimes the most caring and thoughtful people, something you could maybe have said in that situation is 'what's wrong if you was autistic?'. When people hear these questions it then makes them actually think about what they said., when a lot of the time people don't. Personally, after I started question people they started to stop and actually think about what they say more and not just say things. 

    Hope that helps

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