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Am I being too sensitive?

Allie🖤

Family has gathered for the Holidays and I’m already feeling uncomfortable as the only autistic person involved.

The conversation somehow leads to autism, my sister and her boyfriend begin talking about how someone had told them that they both have “autistic traits”. (Personally, I feel that they’re both very neurotypical.) They joke and sneer as is they’ve been insulted, as if being autistic is the worst thing you can be called. Right in front of me. 

Both of them are fully aware that I have a diagnosis, yet they don’t see a problem with what they’re saying. My parents then continue to say “they didn’t mean it to upset you”… but it did upset me, it upset me a lot. 

I feel belittled and like my feelings don’t matter. I feel like I should just shut up and deal with it. I feel so upset and I don’t want to be around anyone. Am I being over dramatic? Am I being stupid? 

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  • Hi Allie.....you have been missed.....if not by the masses here, then rest assured, by me [hopefully in a non-creeepy uncle sense!]

    In my opinion, you are neither being stupid nor over dramatic.  However.....the real question (I presume) is what you should do about it?

    Again....in my opinion (as always)....I would do f*#k all...I would chose not to react.....I would reach out to my own folk....I would ask for reassurance that "their" behaviour is NOT OK.

    So.....fwiw...I think "their" behaviour is typical....and shallow.....and not OK....but nor worthy of your reaction.  You are better than that.  You don't need to react, nor feel diminished......you are more solid.   You don't laugh at people in wheelchairs, you don't think nature is lame, you are doing your best.  F*#k them sister.  You are OK.  They are not?!

    My spoons are diminished right now.....but know you are welcome here - as always - and for all folk like us.  Insta-ok is not us.....we are better and more solid.

    I hope you are OK generally mate.  This is a hard time of year!

    Yours,

    Number.

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  • Hi Allie.....you have been missed.....if not by the masses here, then rest assured, by me [hopefully in a non-creeepy uncle sense!]

    In my opinion, you are neither being stupid nor over dramatic.  However.....the real question (I presume) is what you should do about it?

    Again....in my opinion (as always)....I would do f*#k all...I would chose not to react.....I would reach out to my own folk....I would ask for reassurance that "their" behaviour is NOT OK.

    So.....fwiw...I think "their" behaviour is typical....and shallow.....and not OK....but nor worthy of your reaction.  You are better than that.  You don't need to react, nor feel diminished......you are more solid.   You don't laugh at people in wheelchairs, you don't think nature is lame, you are doing your best.  F*#k them sister.  You are OK.  They are not?!

    My spoons are diminished right now.....but know you are welcome here - as always - and for all folk like us.  Insta-ok is not us.....we are better and more solid.

    I hope you are OK generally mate.  This is a hard time of year!

    Yours,

    Number.

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