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37 and diagnosed Autistic for Christmas

ChestersDad

Hi Guys, 

Newbie here. At the grand age of 37, I received my diagnosis last week. Was actually expecting an ADHD one and not Autism but the test they did was only for Autism (?) and that came back that I am, so now I'm waiting for the ADHD one to take place.

I've bought a journal and started writing things down. Remembering stuff from the past that has really affected me but I've put on a brave face. I'm learning a lot online (any good YT channels or Podcast, please let me know!). But seriously how hard is it to know what is the real you and what is stuff you've been masking?! 

Feeling a little lost TBH, figured this was a good place to come and say hi! 

Cheers

Jimmy

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  • ChestersDad said:
    Remembering stuff from the past that has really affected me but I've put on a brave face.

    Hello Jimmy and welcome to the site.

    This processing of past experiences is something I would recommend doing with a therapist who is experienced in dealing with autistic patients as we often don't handle conventional therapies well (thinkgs like CBT seem to only work for some).

    The therapist will be trained on helping you "unpack" these old experiences and process them in light of your diagnosis - and help you come to terms with the traumas these caused so you can accept them and learn the lessons you can.

    Are there any issues specifically you want to discuss to understand more about?

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  • ChestersDad said:
    Remembering stuff from the past that has really affected me but I've put on a brave face.

    Hello Jimmy and welcome to the site.

    This processing of past experiences is something I would recommend doing with a therapist who is experienced in dealing with autistic patients as we often don't handle conventional therapies well (thinkgs like CBT seem to only work for some).

    The therapist will be trained on helping you "unpack" these old experiences and process them in light of your diagnosis - and help you come to terms with the traumas these caused so you can accept them and learn the lessons you can.

    Are there any issues specifically you want to discuss to understand more about?

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  • in reply to Iain

    Massively agree with this - I am waiting for my therapy stuff to get sorted but I'm already looking forward to it!

    I'm really not sure what issues I want to understand more because I'm not sure which ones I don't actually understand (if that makes sense?). One thing that does matter to me is learning about relationships and how to enjoy them. I don't find it particularly hard to get attention but when I'm in a relationship, they never last more than 2 years (max) - this is a really important area in my life so I guess that's something I should be looking in to a little more.