Sleeping in clothes

Someone i know is sleeping in his clothes and often doesnt change the following day or have a wash. He is Autistic and has ADHD. He sleeps on the sofa with the light on, the tv on and the heating on. He regularly doesnt sleep until the early mid hours of the morning. He says he sleeps better on the sofa. I dont want to push my views on him, but i want the best for him. 

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  • Maybe he sleeps with the TV on because he is lonely. Maybe he cannot sleep if it is dark or too cold. If he isn't eating properly, that might make him feel colder and prevent him sleeping properly too.

    It's difficult to advise what you could do, as I take it that this person is an adult living on their own without a carer and as you say, you don't want to push your views on him. But the way he is living is not good for his health, so if you want the best for him you might need to have a difficult conversation. If you do this, it's probably best to say up front that it's up to him whether he takes your advice, but that you just want him to have a better quality of life.

    Sleeping well and eating properly are important not only to physical health, but also mental health. It's good to have a daily schedule of things to do, including having meals and washing/showering at set times each day. If he lives on his own it doesn't matter too much where he sleeps, but he should use proper bedding, take off his trousers and lay down properly on the sofa. A warm duvet over him should prevent the need to have heating on, which you could point out costs money. If the TV helps him get to sleep that's not a big deal, but it should ideally be on a timer so it's not on all night. Perhaps he could try playing quiet music or use one of those apps that play soothing sounds instead of the TV. If he needs a light on, he could use a night light - I have a plug in one that is left plugged into a socket in the hallway, and leave my bedroom door open. 

    When people are depressed, doctors advise that they try to get up and get washed and dressed every morning and also try to get outside every day - even if it's just to stand outside for a few minutes or go down the road and back. Perhaps you could arrange to go for a walk with him each day, so he has something to get ready for? Perhaps you could go shopping with him and help him buy simple meals he can prepare for himself, toiletries and some new bedding if that is needed? Or help him with getting his bedding washed and hung up to dry (sheets & duvet covers can be difficult to fold on your own!)

    I hope things improve.

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  • Maybe he sleeps with the TV on because he is lonely. Maybe he cannot sleep if it is dark or too cold. If he isn't eating properly, that might make him feel colder and prevent him sleeping properly too.

    It's difficult to advise what you could do, as I take it that this person is an adult living on their own without a carer and as you say, you don't want to push your views on him. But the way he is living is not good for his health, so if you want the best for him you might need to have a difficult conversation. If you do this, it's probably best to say up front that it's up to him whether he takes your advice, but that you just want him to have a better quality of life.

    Sleeping well and eating properly are important not only to physical health, but also mental health. It's good to have a daily schedule of things to do, including having meals and washing/showering at set times each day. If he lives on his own it doesn't matter too much where he sleeps, but he should use proper bedding, take off his trousers and lay down properly on the sofa. A warm duvet over him should prevent the need to have heating on, which you could point out costs money. If the TV helps him get to sleep that's not a big deal, but it should ideally be on a timer so it's not on all night. Perhaps he could try playing quiet music or use one of those apps that play soothing sounds instead of the TV. If he needs a light on, he could use a night light - I have a plug in one that is left plugged into a socket in the hallway, and leave my bedroom door open. 

    When people are depressed, doctors advise that they try to get up and get washed and dressed every morning and also try to get outside every day - even if it's just to stand outside for a few minutes or go down the road and back. Perhaps you could arrange to go for a walk with him each day, so he has something to get ready for? Perhaps you could go shopping with him and help him buy simple meals he can prepare for himself, toiletries and some new bedding if that is needed? Or help him with getting his bedding washed and hung up to dry (sheets & duvet covers can be difficult to fold on your own!)

    I hope things improve.

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