As the title says. He is very clever, very particular about his work, and claims to be a perfectionist (with his work). He fixates on certain things, to an extent that’s not ‘normal’. He gets overwhelmed so easily, if I’ve not listed out what I need from him, he’ll become annoyed or defensive if something not on the list crops up, he needs step by step information from me, things I’ve not thought far ahead of, then accuses me of leaving information out. Tonight is the final thing. I asked him to help me build a small trike for our baby’s birthday, after the kids had gone to bed. He usually relaxes once bedtime’s done and I’m the one that cooks/has chores, but with Christmas wrapping to be done I just asked that, and he was angry that I hadn’t thought to ask him to help with it ‘knowing it needed doing for weeks in advance’. It’s escalated into a full blown argument as he accused me of blindsiding him as it was our baby’s party yesterday and I’d prepped all food and all I wanted him to do was hang 3 banners up (all small but 200 metres from the house so I couldn’t leave the kids to do it myself) and he was so stressed as he wasn’t sure how it was all meant to look (me neOther, I just thought let’s wing it) and he threw that in my face too, saying o should have discussed it with him that he might need to help….where as my neurotypical brain thinks of course he’d need to help…it’s his kid’s party too! Help!
