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How do I tell my family

Lub2024

Hi all, (those who can be bothered to read anyways)

ive very recently been diagnosed as autistic, my parents, who i dont live with and havent for years, seem to not accept the diagnosis 

my parents and wider family dont understand or seem to want to acknowledge that im autistic.

it answers a lot of the questions i have had regarding how i care about people or understand why people seem to care about other peoples problems, to put it bluntly

has anyone had any experience with this  or has any advice to “politely” tell your family that there are some things that just dont bother you, or things about people like there problems that you just dont really care about or understand?

thanks

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  • Hi and welcome to the forum. I'm female, in my sixties.

    Unfortunately I don't think I can help you much, as I stopped having contact with any family before I discovered I was on the spectrum.

    I will just say though that I also find "small talk" boring, and I also don't miss having family as I didn't really connect fully with them. And since my discovery that I was masking, people pleasing and copying neurotypical behaviour to gain approval and be accepted, I've tried to stop doing that as much as possible. I realised that if I'm not connecting with people, why should I care whether they like or approve of me? There are now a few people in my life who like and accept me, including my partner, but nobody genetically related to me.

    Some people are not born into their true family - Sometimes they have to find them.

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