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How do I tell my family

Lub2024

Hi all, (those who can be bothered to read anyways)

ive very recently been diagnosed as autistic, my parents, who i dont live with and havent for years, seem to not accept the diagnosis 

my parents and wider family dont understand or seem to want to acknowledge that im autistic.

it answers a lot of the questions i have had regarding how i care about people or understand why people seem to care about other peoples problems, to put it bluntly

has anyone had any experience with this  or has any advice to “politely” tell your family that there are some things that just dont bother you, or things about people like there problems that you just dont really care about or understand?

thanks

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  • My mom has never accepted the idea of me being autistic, I'm not diagnosed but I shared with her once a therapist suggested that to me. Also my teachers at school told her that thing. She has a vision of autistic child in tantrum, she has the vision of autistic person calculating like a calculator. I know I will not change it. In fact I had meltdowns as a kid and teenager but she seemed to just ignore it as my bad moods or bad behaviour. I decided I'm gonna explore this topic without involving her at all. She herself displays autistic traits however they affect her much less than me so she can't understand me and my problems. It's sad but sometimes the diagnosis really is just for us to know, not necessarily for our relatives to give them explanations. I just received referral but I don't know how it goes further 

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  • My mom has never accepted the idea of me being autistic, I'm not diagnosed but I shared with her once a therapist suggested that to me. Also my teachers at school told her that thing. She has a vision of autistic child in tantrum, she has the vision of autistic person calculating like a calculator. I know I will not change it. In fact I had meltdowns as a kid and teenager but she seemed to just ignore it as my bad moods or bad behaviour. I decided I'm gonna explore this topic without involving her at all. She herself displays autistic traits however they affect her much less than me so she can't understand me and my problems. It's sad but sometimes the diagnosis really is just for us to know, not necessarily for our relatives to give them explanations. I just received referral but I don't know how it goes further 

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  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    Yea i know especially with the older generation when everything that was either dyslexic = stupid, autistic/ adhd naughty or odd child. They just cant grasp the change…

    i had a referral via nhs, nhs mental health dept agreed that there should be a assessment, got reffered back to gp for them to refer me privately via right to choose, which autism and adhd fall in to. Basically if nhs has a long waiting list (im not sure the amount of time) you can ask to be referred privately but nhs pick up the bill.