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How do I tell my family

Lub2024

Hi all, (those who can be bothered to read anyways)

ive very recently been diagnosed as autistic, my parents, who i dont live with and havent for years, seem to not accept the diagnosis 

my parents and wider family dont understand or seem to want to acknowledge that im autistic.

it answers a lot of the questions i have had regarding how i care about people or understand why people seem to care about other peoples problems, to put it bluntly

has anyone had any experience with this  or has any advice to “politely” tell your family that there are some things that just dont bother you, or things about people like there problems that you just dont really care about or understand?

thanks

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  • Lub2024 said:
    my parents and wider family dont understand or seem to want to acknowledge that im autistic.

    Based on this alone I think that sharing your diagnosis is not the way to go.

    I have a similar issue in my family - at best a get a polite acknowledgment then a change of subject or a look as if I'm somehow subhuman.

    In your situation there seems little to be gained so I would suggest keeping it to yourself.

    Learn about autism, work out ways to make your life better and less stressful and leave the family to their preconceptions.

  • in reply to Iain

    Thanks, for your advice. ive got ways that work for me, my wife & her family are understanding, which is good,

    just endless messages etc from my lot and they seem to want a answer about things i just don't give two hoots about, without saying anything that appears rude or not saying anything and being accused of blanking them. 

    Shrug

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  • in reply to Iain

    Thanks, for your advice. ive got ways that work for me, my wife & her family are understanding, which is good,

    just endless messages etc from my lot and they seem to want a answer about things i just don't give two hoots about, without saying anything that appears rude or not saying anything and being accused of blanking them. 

    Shrug

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