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Getting married when you have autism

Programmer37

I was diagnosed with autism early on this year. I currently have a partner who's understands am not the chatty type.  She always tries to initiate a conversation with me. But am scared she might leave me at some point. 

My previous gf broke up with me for this exact reason. 

How do you my fellow autistics get along with their partners?

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  • I got married last year. I've not been diagnosed as an adult, but I did have plenty of attention from various psychologists and shrinks as a child, starting with regression and losing grammatically correct speech at 18 months.

    So far nothing much has changed, but due to living in different countries, something had to be done to navigate the massive spanner in the works presented by Brexit. I'll never understand why that was popular enough to bend the scales, as I had a nightmare time dealing with Immigration before the country I have settled in joined the EU. 

    I do feel a fair amount of trepidation over what it will be like to share my home once he is able to join me permanently. For example in the Autumn I was trying to work on a photoshop project and coming up against difficulties, and he said he got very stressed because of the way I got angry when my lack of knowledge meant things didn't turn out the way I wanted them to. 

    I suppose I'll either look for a bigger place that offers a little more privacy, or I'll get a small extra place either he or I can retreat to if necessary. 

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  • I got married last year. I've not been diagnosed as an adult, but I did have plenty of attention from various psychologists and shrinks as a child, starting with regression and losing grammatically correct speech at 18 months.

    So far nothing much has changed, but due to living in different countries, something had to be done to navigate the massive spanner in the works presented by Brexit. I'll never understand why that was popular enough to bend the scales, as I had a nightmare time dealing with Immigration before the country I have settled in joined the EU. 

    I do feel a fair amount of trepidation over what it will be like to share my home once he is able to join me permanently. For example in the Autumn I was trying to work on a photoshop project and coming up against difficulties, and he said he got very stressed because of the way I got angry when my lack of knowledge meant things didn't turn out the way I wanted them to. 

    I suppose I'll either look for a bigger place that offers a little more privacy, or I'll get a small extra place either he or I can retreat to if necessary. 

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