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Getting married when you have autism

Programmer37

I was diagnosed with autism early on this year. I currently have a partner who's understands am not the chatty type.  She always tries to initiate a conversation with me. But am scared she might leave me at some point. 

My previous gf broke up with me for this exact reason. 

How do you my fellow autistics get along with their partners?

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  • I often hear from my husband, that there is something wrong with me, because I don’t talk much. I’m happy with the wedding we had because it was during the lockdown so there were no guests allowed and no restaurant, I just baked a cake, cooked tasty dinner and we had a coffee and walk. At that time I had no idea I might be autistic, but I remember some people whom I described how it was, their reaction was: I’m soooo sorry you had such a wedding! And I was amazed, why you’re sorry? It was wonderful! 
    i explain my husband my needs and the fact that I need more breaks from socialising. It’s hard, but I would say in my case, the word autism does not mean or help anything in this situation. I just need to communicate my needs clearly with my own words. It’s not easy because first I have to do my analysis to understand what I actually need but it works somehow. 

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  • I often hear from my husband, that there is something wrong with me, because I don’t talk much. I’m happy with the wedding we had because it was during the lockdown so there were no guests allowed and no restaurant, I just baked a cake, cooked tasty dinner and we had a coffee and walk. At that time I had no idea I might be autistic, but I remember some people whom I described how it was, their reaction was: I’m soooo sorry you had such a wedding! And I was amazed, why you’re sorry? It was wonderful! 
    i explain my husband my needs and the fact that I need more breaks from socialising. It’s hard, but I would say in my case, the word autism does not mean or help anything in this situation. I just need to communicate my needs clearly with my own words. It’s not easy because first I have to do my analysis to understand what I actually need but it works somehow. 

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