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Is autism an excuse for bad behaviour?

Autistic Not Alien

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I think using autism as an excuse for bad behaviour is itself very naughty. When famous people do this, it harms autistic people because it implies that autism is a bad thing. Autistic people have enough difficulty gaining acceptance and understanding in this world – the ‘autism made me do it’ excuse makes advocacy and survival even harder. I've just posted a video about this [content removed by Moderator due to breaches of the online community rules and guidelines].

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  • I think it's a reason for social ineptness AKA foot in mouth disease, but not for being a numpty. I agree with Pixiefox in that I think people use it as an excuse with the 'we're all a bit autistic', most autistic people I've met here or in fleshyland would be wishing the ground would open up and swallow them if they upset someone or were poorly behaved and probably wouldn't want to go out fir fear it would happen again.

    We all know what bad behaviour is and yet we seem unable to define it, we all know there are exceptions to almost every rule and as autists we're expert at finding them, but it's not lazy excuses for rudeness or lack of consideration.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I think maybe once I was far more upset by the idea of upseting people inadvertantly than I am now. But as we moved from the 90/00s to the 10/20s and I saw people getting upset with things that I said that people were fine with 10 or 20 years ago, or when I saw people getting upset with me for saying or doing things that they were fine with when other people did it ... or indeed things they did themselves. ... Well I just kind of stoped caring. My position is if you are going to change the goal posts or apply the rules inconsistantly why should I even bother.

    Nowerdays if I upset someone where I wasn't expecting to my first reaction is it is probably them not me who needs to do a bit of self examination.

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I think maybe once I was far more upset by the idea of upseting people inadvertantly than I am now. But as we moved from the 90/00s to the 10/20s and I saw people getting upset with things that I said that people were fine with 10 or 20 years ago, or when I saw people getting upset with me for saying or doing things that they were fine with when other people did it ... or indeed things they did themselves. ... Well I just kind of stoped caring. My position is if you are going to change the goal posts or apply the rules inconsistantly why should I even bother.

    Nowerdays if I upset someone where I wasn't expecting to my first reaction is it is probably them not me who needs to do a bit of self examination.

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