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Overthinking, making decisions, worry, death

Dream

We are thinking of moving house, we have the opportunity to design our home to our specifications. I've spent months checking out every little detail and now is the time to make our decision I'm finding it so hard. My gut feeling is telling me it's the best move. We will be mortgage free (I'm 43) we will be over £1000 a month better off, it's a quiet, private estate in the country but near to amenities. When you drive on it feels like you are away from all the hustle and bustle of live but I'm thinking of everything that could go wrong. Neighbours, dogs barking, it won't be what I imagine, I don't need to worry about children because they can't live on there. I think it's all the stress of everything, the move, the packing, going through all the paperwork, designing the home. Now other things are worrying me, me dying alone if my partner dies before me, when you're dead you are gone forever it scares me, illness. I could go on forever. I have schizoaffective Disorder and I'm waiting for an autism assessment. Is this autism or my mental illness creeping in. I know it's normal to worry etc but I'm not sure what I'm experiencing is a normal level of worry

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  • It is very similar to the huff house but on a smaller scale, it's on an adults only site, they call it a site but it's like a little estate in the countryside were we all have our own drive, gardens etc. The square foot of the new home is 100 square foot bigger than my detached 3 bed house now. I will also gain an en suite and a utility room. I can also have a Juliette balcony off the lounge with a little deck space. I can pick the kitchen, tiles, even curtains, tables, literally everything. I've wanted to do this for about 5 years but now this opportunity has come up in the perfect area and perfect price. It seems too good to be true but I have definitely done my research, that is what I'm know for. I look at every little detail so I'm confident it's as good as it sounds. I need to think of the positives like you said some things are out of our control. Thank you everyone for replying it really helps to talk, it does calm me down (for the time being anyway)

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  • It is very similar to the huff house but on a smaller scale, it's on an adults only site, they call it a site but it's like a little estate in the countryside were we all have our own drive, gardens etc. The square foot of the new home is 100 square foot bigger than my detached 3 bed house now. I will also gain an en suite and a utility room. I can also have a Juliette balcony off the lounge with a little deck space. I can pick the kitchen, tiles, even curtains, tables, literally everything. I've wanted to do this for about 5 years but now this opportunity has come up in the perfect area and perfect price. It seems too good to be true but I have definitely done my research, that is what I'm know for. I look at every little detail so I'm confident it's as good as it sounds. I need to think of the positives like you said some things are out of our control. Thank you everyone for replying it really helps to talk, it does calm me down (for the time being anyway)

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