The relationships and intimacy strategy thread

I propose chemical castration.

For what?

Cat - I think esoteric is trying to say that life might be easier if nobody was interested in "hanky panky"  as we used to call it in the old days (trying to avoid being moderated here)

However people also want companionship and someone they can rely on to always be there for them - it's not all about the physical aspect, which can be great when you're young, but as you and I know, that drive is usually lost when we get older. I think it's nice to have a live in best friend to care for and who cares about you. 

Esoteric - This thread should not just be about physical intimacy - we need to try to support people in how to find love in all its various forms.

I feel tired of many things, sometimes kinda tired of my life, like it’s everything too much. Do I’m also kinda tired of sex 

Alien0n3arth said:

I’m not sure if arousal  meds would be good for me, I’m afraid I would be horny all the time 

You say that as if it were a bad thing :P

I used to masturbate a lot as a teenager. Now hmm it’s nothing like it was before. Probably trauma plus various meds (now I don’t take any) plus maybe also hormonal changes (I’m 36). I’m not sure if arousal  meds would be good for me, I’m afraid I would be horny all the time 

I'd consider taking sexual arousal drugs if it was a safe / legal option. I remember what it was like to be kind of horny all the time as a teenager. I actually enjoyed it even if I wasn't getting any.

Yes, mine did. Thank goodness the lady therapist I saw said he doesn’t see any need to medicate me for anything. He also helped me realise that I struggle to recognize that it’s already too much. And I take more and more stress till I start crying or get panic attack. 

Most anti depresents have a moderate to extreem dampaning effect. Frankly medical science has been more intrested in developing chemicals that make people horny.

There is actually a long history of science trying and failing to creat drugs to make women horny ... untill quite recent sucess.

How does one chemically castrate a woman? I know the contraceptive pill works for many, but how many anaphrodisiacs are there? I thin kthis is a very under researched area.

I don't have enough trust left to rely on anyone else, I've rarely if ever had anyone who's always there for me, as soon as I need help everybody disapears, I can only think of a couple of times when that hasn't happened. A therapist told me to call people and talk to someone when I was feeling bad and come back and talk about how it had gone, I don't know if she believed me when I said I done this and nobody was in, or were just about to go and do something like go to the doctor. I think it's left me to strong for my own good in a lot of ways, but then whats the alternative?

How does one chemically castrate a woman? I know the contraceptive pill works for many, but how many anaphrodisiacs are there? I thin kthis is a very under researched area.

I don't have enough trust left to rely on anyone else, I've rarely if ever had anyone who's always there for me, as soon as I need help everybody disapears, I can only think of a couple of times when that hasn't happened. A therapist told me to call people and talk to someone when I was feeling bad and come back and talk about how it had gone, I don't know if she believed me when I said I done this and nobody was in, or were just about to go and do something like go to the doctor. I think it's left me to strong for my own good in a lot of ways, but then whats the alternative?

I feel tired of many things, sometimes kinda tired of my life, like it’s everything too much. Do I’m also kinda tired of sex 

Alien0n3arth said:

I’m not sure if arousal  meds would be good for me, I’m afraid I would be horny all the time 

You say that as if it were a bad thing :P

I used to masturbate a lot as a teenager. Now hmm it’s nothing like it was before. Probably trauma plus various meds (now I don’t take any) plus maybe also hormonal changes (I’m 36). I’m not sure if arousal  meds would be good for me, I’m afraid I would be horny all the time 

I'd consider taking sexual arousal drugs if it was a safe / legal option. I remember what it was like to be kind of horny all the time as a teenager. I actually enjoyed it even if I wasn't getting any.

Yes, mine did. Thank goodness the lady therapist I saw said he doesn’t see any need to medicate me for anything. He also helped me realise that I struggle to recognize that it’s already too much. And I take more and more stress till I start crying or get panic attack. 

Most anti depresents have a moderate to extreem dampaning effect. Frankly medical science has been more intrested in developing chemicals that make people horny.

There is actually a long history of science trying and failing to creat drugs to make women horny ... untill quite recent sucess.