The relationships and intimacy strategy thread

a really good thread! 
As I was always a loner and terrible at flirt, also bad at catching social cues, it happened to me numerous times that someone wanted something from me (kinda) I felt uncomfortable and walked away, afterwards I heard “are you stupid? He was so handsome and wanted to know you better!” 
ok, so who is handsome or who’s not, it’s of course a subjective thing. I always liked a man who was not on the top list of my female peers. But that’s fine. 
For me just flirting doesn’t make any sense I guess, a relationship since the very beginning must be more meaningful and deeper. I always laugh that if the internet did not exist, I would have become a nun. 
i found my husband in the internet. He was first to text me, I saw his photo with a nice and a bit mysterious smile. We texted quite long before our first date. There were also calls with camera. Since the very beginning this relationship is very special, for me what was most important: I didn’t have to pretend to be like others, we could talk whenever we wanted and whatever topic, about the world, cultures and geography, books etc. for me a simple gesture is much more important than flirts, when looking for the next half it’s also important to define your own expectations. In my case I knew I need someone stable, with some sense of humour, far from reckless behaviour, drug or alcohol abuse are a big no, someone who would respect and care. 
I have never looked for one night adventure because I need the emotional connection to be comfortable enough for intimacy. I also didn’t look for someone “perfect” and not looking for someone who would expect me to be perfect..that’s all I can say as for now I guess

Did you meet on a dating website or some other place on the internet?

Everywhere in the internet - high risk of meeting a scammer, psychopath etc. I met my husband on badoo. He was the third man who wrote me. My colleague from university told me I shouldn’t be such a loner, I need friends and man, and that I can meet interesting people on badoo. I wouldn’t say, that these people are more interesting than anywhere else, but I was lucky to find him on the first day of having the account there. Soon after I removed it and didn’t try anything else. I’ve never had many friends, if I had two, it was already a crowd for me, but I’m also not easy to break up relationship or friendship. I call it - I don’t throw people out to the dustbin, unless someone is really toxic and harmed me enough for me to kick them out (that also happened). 
Internet is really great and also dangerous. I’m happy that we have this forum and can communicate despite being far away from each other. 

Everywhere in the internet - high risk of meeting a scammer, psychopath etc. I met my husband on badoo. He was the third man who wrote me. My colleague from university told me I shouldn’t be such a loner, I need friends and man, and that I can meet interesting people on badoo. I wouldn’t say, that these people are more interesting than anywhere else, but I was lucky to find him on the first day of having the account there. Soon after I removed it and didn’t try anything else. I’ve never had many friends, if I had two, it was already a crowd for me, but I’m also not easy to break up relationship or friendship. I call it - I don’t throw people out to the dustbin, unless someone is really toxic and harmed me enough for me to kick them out (that also happened). 
Internet is really great and also dangerous. I’m happy that we have this forum and can communicate despite being far away from each other. 

Alien0n3arth said:

I was lucky to find him on the first day of having the account there

Wow! Well done.