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Is it just me?

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When I was younger my teachers said I had verbal diarrhea. That didn't bother me. Now I am older people say to me - You don't look autistic - Are you sure you are autistic? - You must be very intelligent if you are high functioning. All these comments annoy me. Maybe its because I am older and less tolerant of the comments, or maybe its  because other people are showing their lack of understanding  about autism.

It  makes me wonder - Is it just me that people make these type of comments to? Are other people annoyed by things people say about their autism?

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  • I was once asked if I was normal because the person asking thought all people with ASC are severly effected by it and anyone who's able to do things by themselves must be OK. I don't understand this as I'm not OK with everything there are things I really struggle with, often the assumptions of ignorant others.

    AH, Golly that lot took me back, one fo the good things about being older is people no longer say that sort of stuff to me, mind you, I'm rarely in the sort of situations where people would say that sort of thing to me, I don't go to parties, cinema or anything. I did used to get "helpful" men trying to tell me how to be so as they or more likely a friend might be attracted to me. One of the strangest I got was about my height, I'm 5'10", couldn't I do something about it, like go on some sort of diet? I've heard of many diets but never one that would make me lose several inches in height.

    I'm wondering about how much of this is gender based, do people say the same things to men? I guess they do about confidence and maybe not taking everything so seriously, but men seem to be allowed to be serious more than women.

    The comments about intellegence to those of us who are outwardly high functioning are difficult, I often feel like saying, 'Yes, I'm really intellegent, probably far more so than you', but I don't because I don't want to get into stuff like that with a casual aquaintance or someone I don't know well or at all and partly because I'm afraid of being told that if I'm that intellegent then I can think my out of Autism. In the UK intellegence and being thought of as intellectual is frowned upon, especially in women, old ideas about education and intellegence equating to not wanting or being able to have children are still around and ideas that men don't want an intellegent woman, I wonder why an intellegent man would want a stupid or uneducated woman?

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    If anyone asked me if I was normal, I would say, "No, I'm not 'normal', because I'm an autistic person, but you're  an unpleasant person because you are thoughtlessly insulting, I'd rather be autistic myself".

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