Is it just me?

I was once asked if I was normal because the person asking thought all people with ASC are severly effected by it and anyone who's able to do things by themselves must be OK. I don't understand this as I'm not OK with everything there are things I really struggle with, often the assumptions of ignorant others.

AH, Golly that lot took me back, one fo the good things about being older is people no longer say that sort of stuff to me, mind you, I'm rarely in the sort of situations where people would say that sort of thing to me, I don't go to parties, cinema or anything. I did used to get "helpful" men trying to tell me how to be so as they or more likely a friend might be attracted to me. One of the strangest I got was about my height, I'm 5'10", couldn't I do something about it, like go on some sort of diet? I've heard of many diets but never one that would make me lose several inches in height.

I'm wondering about how much of this is gender based, do people say the same things to men? I guess they do about confidence and maybe not taking everything so seriously, but men seem to be allowed to be serious more than women.

The comments about intellegence to those of us who are outwardly high functioning are difficult, I often feel like saying, 'Yes, I'm really intellegent, probably far more so than you', but I don't because I don't want to get into stuff like that with a casual aquaintance or someone I don't know well or at all and partly because I'm afraid of being told that if I'm that intellegent then I can think my out of Autism. In the UK intellegence and being thought of as intellectual is frowned upon, especially in women, old ideas about education and intellegence equating to not wanting or being able to have children are still around and ideas that men don't want an intellegent woman, I wonder why an intellegent man would want a stupid or uneducated woman?

I’m sure part of these comments are gender based. For example the “do make up” one. I hate make up because it feels terribly uncomfortable on my skin and because of make up and jewellery I get tics. The “self confidence” one may be related to trauma, generally I noticed many ND people struggle with it. Because we are different than NT people and struggle to fit in, so it’s quite logical.  I also heard a comment “don’t worry we will fix you we will make an attractive woman out of you” - those who said that didn’t probably mean anything bad, or they didn’t realise, how much it hurt. It hurt a lot, deeply and for long time. 

I can't wear make-up as I seem to be allergic to most of it. I love jewelery, but not girly little gold pieces or small pieces in general, I can't wear most gold because of the nickel content and it dosen't suit me.

I'd actually love to go on one of these make-over programes just to see how they'd find clothes that fit me properly and make-up that dosen't bring me out in a rash.

I can't wear make-up as I seem to be allergic to most of it. I love jewelery, but not girly little gold pieces or small pieces in general, I can't wear most gold because of the nickel content and it dosen't suit me.

I'd actually love to go on one of these make-over programes just to see how they'd find clothes that fit me properly and make-up that dosen't bring me out in a rash.