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Coming out / disclosing

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Not long after my diagnosis I told a handful of people at work about it, people I’m relatively close to (in work terms) and that has been okay.

But as I have become more aware of what challenges me, I have found masking with other coworkers more and more frustrating. Having to either suffer unnecessarily or justify myself to people.

I’ve been close to another full on burnout for a couple of months and I know if something doesn’t change, I’ll end up having another extended absence.

So it feels like the risks of “coming out” are now outweighed by the risks of not.

Have any of you “gone public” at work and, if so, how did it go? Am I about to commit an act of liberation or self-sabotage?

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  • I’m not diagnosed, but told by professionals that they are sure I’m autistic. I told that my manager and one other colleague, but only because they were concerned about my reactions to noisy and dynamic environment. First I told them I have depression and Tourette (officially diagnosed) but they said it’s unbelievable how I could have these conditions. So I finally told them what I was told by two psychiatrists. They only said, that now it makes sense. My team is supportive, sometimes someone from other team makes kinda fun of me, because they always see me having same foods, wearing same clothes,  walking like a robot or soldier and almost not talking. No small talk, I don’t talk if I have nothing to say. So for them I’m a little geek but I don’t care, only two people know and accommodate me, I’m also accommodating to my other ND colleague. He is not autistic, but has ADHD and other conditions. I was very reluctant about sharing this information, but it happened I did it only because I felt comfortable welcome in the team. I would like to add, that the last therapist I had my first session with, he made huge eyes and asked me if I imagined this Tourette and depression myself. But I was happy because he listened carefully asked me questions and didn’t talk at me, also noticed one thing that made me think somehow deeper about the whole issue. And he said one more good thing- he doesn’t see any need to medicate me. I’m done with meds and he said in his opinion it’s better to not take meds if not necessary. I agree. 

  • in reply to Alien0n3arth
    Alien0n3arth said:
    me having same foods, wearing same clothes,  walking like a robot or soldier and almost not talking

    Oddly enough, I was occasionally made fun of at work for always wearing the same outfit, years before I was diagnosed.

    As for the rest - I work in IT so these things are not unusual in my office!

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