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Newly diagnosed AuDHD

Katie_m_web86

Hi, I'm a 38yr old female. Just formally diagnosed with autism and ADHD. I'm currently in burnout from being undiagnosed for so long, I reached my limit mentally.

I now realise that unconscious masking, unbearable rumination and rejection sensitivity disphoria have been destroying me. I was always told I had an anxiety disorder but I knew there was more to it.

I feel so fragile that I don't know where to start. I'll be doing coaching with my assessment team but in the meantime how am I supposed to be around people?...not that I have friends....just family/work people.

I don't know how it can work, people have known me a certain way for so long, how can I all of a sudden present as totally different? I feel I've trapped myself in someone I'm not and I'm stuck there.

Any advice would be appreciated as I don't know a single other neurodivergent person.

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  • Hi Katie, wow, your story is almost a carbon copy to my own. I was diagnosed last week and getting more burnt out day on day. It feels like I’ve been handed a set of keys only to guess what door it opens. 

    I’m certain it will eventually get easier, the anxiety is the crippler for me at the moment. It’s stopping me working well or being adventurous. I am trying to address that first before I make any big revelations or try to work out what I am or want to do with the rest of my life!

    Do let me know how you’re getting on. 

  • in reply to Chissy

    The atomoxetine is definitely letting me see the ASD more clearly we clearly. I'm much more withdrawn now. I haven't left the house much at all. I can notice sound effects me more. 

    I'm dreading Christmas with all this going on, I won't be the same person as before and I'm worried what people will think, id hate to feel as if I'm putting it on when I know I'm not.

    My sister hasn't been sympathetic, hasn't asked me about it at all and clearly doesn't understand it. 

    It's a very lonely place to be.

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  • in reply to Chissy

    The atomoxetine is definitely letting me see the ASD more clearly we clearly. I'm much more withdrawn now. I haven't left the house much at all. I can notice sound effects me more. 

    I'm dreading Christmas with all this going on, I won't be the same person as before and I'm worried what people will think, id hate to feel as if I'm putting it on when I know I'm not.

    My sister hasn't been sympathetic, hasn't asked me about it at all and clearly doesn't understand it. 

    It's a very lonely place to be.

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