Being on the spectrum is making me undateable

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  • "You are only masking to get a chance to "show your worth" to the other person through the other conversations you can have.

    The "no weirdos" defence is our biggest challenge in getting to talk to the prospective dates so think of it more as deferring showing your true self until you are confident it will be received well. If they seem like they will freak out then it gives you time to back out with grace and keep any reputation intact."

  • "If you are trying to socialise with a neurotypical then being yourself is often a bad move until they get to "know" you a bit better - they get freaked out by our authentic selves as we bare a striking resemblance to the sort of weirdos they were were warned about by their parents.

    Masking greatly helps the initial interaction and gives you a chance to "sell yourself" better to a prospective date."