Yes, you keep telling us this but unfortunately there isn't much we can do about it if the replies you've had so far haven't made you feel any better about yourself. Maybe you could think about what you could change to increase your self esteem?
I’m very sorry you are having hard time. I don’t know you personally, but I think maybe there are some things that you can change or just accept if you are unhappy with. I had a colleague in McDonald’s (my previous job) I recall he mentioned having the Asperger diagnosis. We had fun during breaks with word game - translating words to our favorite languages - his Japanese and mine Russian. I remember I wanted to ask him for date but I was too shy and thought he wasn’t interested in me. I don’t know what would have happened if… I also remember another colleague from the college, idk if he was on the spectrum or not, he didn’t say but he behaved that I would say probably yes. And he would always approach me to ask questions about things that we talked about during classes (maybe sensory processing disorder) he had issues with spoken instructions. So I helped him as much as I could. After graduation I suddenly started thinking about him that maybe it was also his way of showing his interest. And I felt a regret that we didn’t get to know each other closer. Other girls laughed that he was a geek but to me he was attractive. i think it’s very individual matter, but I would say being on the spectrum does not mean, you are unattractive, or maybe you didn’t meet yet the person who you are attractive to or you met them but you don’t know, that they like you. Once @Uhane said befriend yourself. Maybe it’s not easy, but the aura you have means a lot.
I’m careful when giving advice here, because I don’t know people here personally. My experience is very similar to yours, but I’m female. Truth is that probably most of women are looking for Antonio Banderas - rich, super handsome etc, but I’m sure not all are like this. I’m not and never was like this. For me the most important thing is and always was deeper emotional connection, so maybe, if possible, you can also try to find someone like this. About self esteem, it’s something to work on, but will not advise you how etc, maybe you have trauma that you need to process and need a therapy.
Well, my confidence and self-esteem was severely damaged by this long dry spell, seeing no signs of interest from women and having grown up struggling to fit in and being one of the easiest kids to pick on and make fun of. However, I've been told on here that I might be giving off a negative vibe with the self-pitying, and I've been advised to play down my weirdness when first meeting potential dates, so now I'm trying to take that advice on board
Well, my confidence and self-esteem was severely damaged by this long dry spell, seeing no signs of interest from women and having grown up struggling to fit in and being one of the easiest kids to pick on and make fun of. However, I've been told on here that I might be giving off a negative vibe with the self-pitying, and I've been advised to play down my weirdness when first meeting potential dates, so now I'm trying to take that advice on board
I’m careful when giving advice here, because I don’t know people here personally. My experience is very similar to yours, but I’m female. Truth is that probably most of women are looking for Antonio Banderas - rich, super handsome etc, but I’m sure not all are like this. I’m not and never was like this. For me the most important thing is and always was deeper emotional connection, so maybe, if possible, you can also try to find someone like this. About self esteem, it’s something to work on, but will not advise you how etc, maybe you have trauma that you need to process and need a therapy.
