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Making Friends as an Adult

Paraducks

This is, perhaps, not the best place to ask this question but maybe if we bang rocks together we can make sparks.

It feels like when you're an adult, your opportunities for socialising in general begin to fall off a cliff-edge. I was having a chat with my parents about it recently, and they expressed a similar sentiment: "Most of my friends are from work. I don't really have the time to look for new ones anymore." It feels like that's where I am at right now, twenty odd years earlier than them in the timeline. 

I was curious if that is the experience many of our older folks on this forum experienced as well? Obviously the struggles of being Autistic doesn't help our case in any way, but I can't help but think this might be a universal issue among people just in general now that so many of our relationships are conducted through the screen. (Heck, i'm even asking for help online right now!)

I'm happy to bring up where I think Autism plays a role in this in replies, but i'm curious on how people try to make friends once they have left higher education. (College/Uni)

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  • I remember as a child my mum telling me to enjoy the opportunities I had then to make lots of friends because it would be harder once I was a grown up. Didn’t believe her at the time, but did find that to be true after school. Not that I was the most social of people because I wasn’t. First year of uni was horrible - assumed I’d make friend but honestly didn’t and couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me. Struggled ever since, but have found that hobbies help - when you’re in a group doing stuff you have in common (in my case that’s running) you end up making friends and don’t have the pressure of having to sit and make conversation (which I’m bad at). 

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  • I remember as a child my mum telling me to enjoy the opportunities I had then to make lots of friends because it would be harder once I was a grown up. Didn’t believe her at the time, but did find that to be true after school. Not that I was the most social of people because I wasn’t. First year of uni was horrible - assumed I’d make friend but honestly didn’t and couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me. Struggled ever since, but have found that hobbies help - when you’re in a group doing stuff you have in common (in my case that’s running) you end up making friends and don’t have the pressure of having to sit and make conversation (which I’m bad at). 

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