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I lost a friend today

Stu

He says I've changed and he doesn't like the person I've become. I was diagnosed back in April and stopped masking. Saying what's on my mind more. Due to work commitments on my wife's part and stuff going on with one of my kids I couldn't fly abroad to his wedding. 

He got very nasty about it. Took it very personally. Truth was I was scared to go I suppose. 

Things have been on and off and rocky for the last six months or so but today he told me he doesn't like me anymore and strongly implied that I'm faking my autism, that I somehow rigged the assessment in my favour, all because I don't want to get a job. 

I'm temporarily not working but it's because my daughter is home educated. It's nothing to do with my autism. 

I know diagnosis leads to loss of friendship. Is this a common story?

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  • Hello, I am sorry to learn you have lost a friend but given the description of him, I feel you are better off without him in your life. What friend would accuse you of faking your autism instead of being supportive? Ninety seven percent of autistics are unemployed, the highest amongst all disability's. I am lucky to have good and supportive friends. True friends in your life will be there for you. 

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  • Hello, I am sorry to learn you have lost a friend but given the description of him, I feel you are better off without him in your life. What friend would accuse you of faking your autism instead of being supportive? Ninety seven percent of autistics are unemployed, the highest amongst all disability's. I am lucky to have good and supportive friends. True friends in your life will be there for you. 

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