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The trials of living with a NT partner

orderlyaut

Hoping people's perspectives can help guide me here...

3+months ago, my partner moved in with me, in to my house. It wasn't until we started having little disagreements about things that I realised that I'm my authentic self when I'm at home and I mask/cope when I'm elsewhere. It's this which has really made me start my journey on path a of self-discovery. I've thought for years that I'm on the spectrum but it wasn't until I started sharing my space (for the first time) that I realised how much. 

I've seen a few posts about where ASD ends and where my personality starts and it's this which is making me a bit anxious in terms of trying to live how I feel I need to in my own home, with a partner, versus having to compromise and not be truly happy with the situation. I feel that I'm doing my best giving reasoning why certain things need to be a certain way, they are largely appreciated, but then forgotten and then having to repeat myself then causes issues. 

I realise that some of the more minor issues are just what NT people would face, so I'm having to battle with them, as well as my ND needs.

Any advice on what others have found to work would be appreciated.

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  • I don't have any advice I can offer, but I do sympathise.

    When I was younger, myself and my then-boyfriend had agreed that as he was more-or-less living with me, he might as well move in with me officially. I did not know then that I was autistic.

    Having things done a certain way wasn't an issue for me, but the one thing I really struggled with was when he had started to move some of his possessions in. One of his prized possessions had been a pair of large speakers, which took up a lot of space. The quality of sound from them was amazing, but I really hated the fact that they were so big and bulky.

  • in reply to Sparkly-Temporary Account

    Thank you, that does help too. I'm not too bothered by their possessions, I think it's more the space and how it's affected that affects me. 

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