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How to handle large life changes

Emily123

I'm 29 and have been working at the same workplace since I was 18. For quite some time now I have been really miserable with my job and wish to quit. The problem is the idea of leaving and starting over of that huge change the new people the possibility of meltdowns is so overwhelming that I don't know what to do. How do I go about making big life changes such as moving jobs or getting my own place when the mere thought of it sends me into a spiral. Any advice on how others have handled this would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance 

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  • I have less practical advice to offer than the contributions below. Change is hard and may not come unless externally pushed. However, nothing will change in your life if you allow it to continue as is. I think sometimes our "sort" can have difficulty with foresight as there are just too many options to consider and sameness gives certainty. Real change is uncertain and I also think we can have difficulty trusting our instincts as we more often than not ignore them due to masking or putting up with unsuitable environments and situations. There's a balance to be found in putting yourself into uncomfortable situations in order to grow and doing things which don't feel natural.

    If or when you do make changes understand that it'll be difficult but you will acclimatise in time and learn more about yourself.

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  • I have less practical advice to offer than the contributions below. Change is hard and may not come unless externally pushed. However, nothing will change in your life if you allow it to continue as is. I think sometimes our "sort" can have difficulty with foresight as there are just too many options to consider and sameness gives certainty. Real change is uncertain and I also think we can have difficulty trusting our instincts as we more often than not ignore them due to masking or putting up with unsuitable environments and situations. There's a balance to be found in putting yourself into uncomfortable situations in order to grow and doing things which don't feel natural.

    If or when you do make changes understand that it'll be difficult but you will acclimatise in time and learn more about yourself.

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