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Not wanting friends?

Autisguy

I’m a 22 year old autistic adult and I think I don’t like having friends. I agree to plans but on the day I hate that I have to go. I’d rather do things alone. I feel most content on days where I’m alone with my close family and/or dog. My close family is all I need. Friendships feel too exhausting for me. The more I unmask, the more I realise things about myself, and I think I’m just discovering this one. Of course it makes me feel bad but I can’t change the way my brain works. I don’t want to sound like a bad person. Is there any autistic adults on here who feel the same? I don’t know who to talk to about this. 

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  • I have about 4 actual friends. Some of them I haven't seen for over a year. Friendships with people that don't get me are exhausting and I try to find excuses to not see these people, which I think often comes across as rude.

    I think doing things alone is way underrated. Before I met my partner I used to travel alone a lot and enjoyed it a lot more than travelling with other people. It's tiring having to voice your needs continuously to people that will not understand them. 

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  • I have about 4 actual friends. Some of them I haven't seen for over a year. Friendships with people that don't get me are exhausting and I try to find excuses to not see these people, which I think often comes across as rude.

    I think doing things alone is way underrated. Before I met my partner I used to travel alone a lot and enjoyed it a lot more than travelling with other people. It's tiring having to voice your needs continuously to people that will not understand them. 

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  • in reply to Kazu

    I get this too, I can make arrangements ok, but then as the day draws closer the heebie jeebies I get, until I become almost paralysed with apprehension, it dosen't matter that I like the people I'm meeting or whatever.

    I have few friends tooa dn this is by choice, I just don't feel the need for more, I think this is quite common for autists