Generally things are a lot better, it must have been a bit strange for my wife, I just announced one day to her that I think I’m autistic. We have been married for over 30 years. I had done a lot of research by then.
It has helped us both understand why our relationship has been difficult for both of us. It’s now more understood why I find things like social occasions so hard, I don’t have to now attend if I’m not comfortable. We don’t have to go through the weeks of ‘radio silence’ as I would slowly shutdown as the occasion got nearer. I will now say something if I find some food unsuitable, more thought is now there with things like noise. I also understand that my wife does like to socialise and have a life. I do still mask heavily, I just couldn’t explain how much my brain is constantly processing, a lot of the time I’m just quite with a whole world going on in my head. I don’t think my wife should be fully exposed to that, it’s all too random.
Generally things are a lot better, it must have been a bit strange for my wife, I just announced one day to her that I think I’m autistic. We have been married for over 30 years. I had done a lot of research by then.
It has helped us both understand why our relationship has been difficult for both of us. It’s now more understood why I find things like social occasions so hard, I don’t have to now attend if I’m not comfortable. We don’t have to go through the weeks of ‘radio silence’ as I would slowly shutdown as the occasion got nearer. I will now say something if I find some food unsuitable, more thought is now there with things like noise. I also understand that my wife does like to socialise and have a life. I do still mask heavily, I just couldn’t explain how much my brain is constantly processing, a lot of the time I’m just quite with a whole world going on in my head. I don’t think my wife should be fully exposed to that, it’s all too random.
