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Viewing houses causing anxiety

Becky

Hi,

I have started looking for houses to buy with my partner and, before every viewing, I feel this massive bubble of anxiety in my chest. I’m finding myself unable to think about anything else and I keep bursting into tears.

I think my dislike of change is playing a part mixed with worries about loving a house and not getting it. This is made worse because I see myself as the weak link because I don’t earn very much so it limits our possibilities.

I’m not sure what I want from posting. I just thought someone in here might understand. Always happy for advice too.

Thank you for reading.

B

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  • I feel your pain, we are moving in a few weeks after 19 years here. Even for 'normal people' moving house is massivley stressful at any time. It is a lot of preassure deciding if you want to move somwehere and you are expected to decide in a few minuites. I would try and change how you view somewhere. Maybe go there the day before and look at the area so you are not bombarded by that as well. I massivley reasearched houses we looked at, mainly as its 180 miles away. Try and do the whole thing in a slow and measured way, ask for time on your own in the house maybe?

    I would add that it really doesn't get any easier even when you have found somewhere. We are 3 months in and suddenley our buyer decides he wants a survey after relying on the mortgage company survey. I am sure it will all be fine but anxiety is through the roof. Assuming it is all well I then have to cope with moving everything and being in limbo for weeks in a new house that needs lots of work. Good luck with the whole thing.

    Rob

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  • I feel your pain, we are moving in a few weeks after 19 years here. Even for 'normal people' moving house is massivley stressful at any time. It is a lot of preassure deciding if you want to move somwehere and you are expected to decide in a few minuites. I would try and change how you view somewhere. Maybe go there the day before and look at the area so you are not bombarded by that as well. I massivley reasearched houses we looked at, mainly as its 180 miles away. Try and do the whole thing in a slow and measured way, ask for time on your own in the house maybe?

    I would add that it really doesn't get any easier even when you have found somewhere. We are 3 months in and suddenley our buyer decides he wants a survey after relying on the mortgage company survey. I am sure it will all be fine but anxiety is through the roof. Assuming it is all well I then have to cope with moving everything and being in limbo for weeks in a new house that needs lots of work. Good luck with the whole thing.

    Rob

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  • in reply to NAS65321

    Hi Rob, thank you for reading and letting me know I’m not alone. We aren’t moving very far from where we currently are but we will have a visit to the area separately to check it out. Thank you for the advice. 

    We’re currently living with my Mum so we aren’t having to sell too. Not sure how I’d be if we were! I hope everything goes well for you. 

    Thank you again.