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How do you join a group conversation?

Mark

You're sitting there with noone to talk to. You notice a group of aquaintances standing chatting to each other, and decide you'd like to go over and join in the conversation. Personally, I feel awkward about going over and just standing there with them in case I don't actually get the chance to speak for 2 minutes or more and they think I'm weird or something. But I can't really wait for someone to say something that I can respond to and then go over, because I'm usually not near enough to hear what they're saying. And standing near them, but not actually with them would probably look even weirder than standing with them and not contributing anything to the conversation for 2 or 3 minutes.

So how do you join a group conversation? Just stand with them and risk not getting a chance to say anything for the first 2 or 3 minutes, or what?

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  • When I was young and high masking I used to make one trick. I stand with them, say nothing or very quiet hi, I stay there, make eye contact and lean towards the person who’s currently speaking. If others are laughing, I laughed too. For short time it’s working - you don’t look weird for not contributing because you actually pretend to be contributing. In fact I had no idea what they were talking about because I had to concentrate on making the painful eye contact and smiling and generally control my body language, there were also noises lights and smells around that disturbed me so it made it harder to concentrate and listen what they are talking about. For me if there is me + more than one person - it’s a crowd, it’s too much. If it’s more than few, like 3-4 people chatting, then I don’t even join. It’s waaay too much, makes me dizzy and overwhelmed. On other hand if it’s a large group of people then it’s easier to just disappear unnoticed 

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  • When I was young and high masking I used to make one trick. I stand with them, say nothing or very quiet hi, I stay there, make eye contact and lean towards the person who’s currently speaking. If others are laughing, I laughed too. For short time it’s working - you don’t look weird for not contributing because you actually pretend to be contributing. In fact I had no idea what they were talking about because I had to concentrate on making the painful eye contact and smiling and generally control my body language, there were also noises lights and smells around that disturbed me so it made it harder to concentrate and listen what they are talking about. For me if there is me + more than one person - it’s a crowd, it’s too much. If it’s more than few, like 3-4 people chatting, then I don’t even join. It’s waaay too much, makes me dizzy and overwhelmed. On other hand if it’s a large group of people then it’s easier to just disappear unnoticed 

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