Any success stories?

Hi all,

I've been recently diagnosed with high-functioning autism as an adult (I'm in my mid-forties), and I am struggling to understand how to move on with my life and make things better for myself and the people around me. Therapy is helping me to reconsider who I am and how I respond to my challenges, but I feel like I don't really have a plan for the future.

On the one hand, a diagnosis is great because it helped me understand that most of the issues I've faced during my life have a cause: the very precise feeling of being different from everyone else, which makes being in a social situation a nightmare; the tendency to isolate myself and use my special interest to create an alternative world where I can lose myself and feel comfortable; the discomfort I've felt at work. It's nice to see that there always was an objective issue, and it's not just me being lazy, difficult, or plain stupid.

On the other hand, I am quite exhausted by all this, and I'm quite scared by the prospect of living in the same way as I always have, until the end of my days. Being alone used to be a relief, but it has turned into a prison. I'm aware you can't simply switch autism off, you have to accept it, but I'm really hoping I can find ways to work around my limitations. 

So I wanted to ask the community, has any of you been diagnosed with ASD as adults, and managed to turn their lives around (or at least, make some progress) following that realization? Do you have any success stories, advice, strategies, that you would like to share?

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  • I hope to be a sucess story soon. At the age of 49 I started to look at my mental health issues and came to the conclusion I have ADHD and autism, later confirmed. That was 2019-20, then lockdown came and I lost my dad, my mum had to go into care then she passed in 2023.That all totally broke me in 2020 and recovery has been a long road. My wife had a toxic job last year and we though we are done with all this. We are currently waiting to move into our new house in Lincolnshire. We will have no mortgage, money in the bank and am taking 6 months off work. After that I need just to get a min wage job.

    I am now much kinder to myself, I push myself less and give myself more time. Living in the south east was too busy, too many money orentated people having to have the latest thing etc. I now say no to things I once did through gritted teeth, like big social events. Work has been my biggest issue, I just can't do what I did for 20 years, the anxiety of doing things wrong just overwhelms me. I also have a boss thats a pain which adds to the anxiety. 

    I would say take time, think about things, take the preassure off yourself to be something you are not.I never had a plan for the future until reciently. Sadly this world is difficult in terms of money when these things happen and people just don't understand when you would like a few months off, or even give up work.

    good luck.

    Rob

  • I couldn't agree more, that was exactly the thinking behind my choice to leave my previous company. What's the point of having a job that is rewarding money-wise, if that only leads to your mental health deteriorating?

    Thanks and congratulations on your new life in Lincolnshire!

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