Successful masking tips?

  1. I am an older ASD male from the States. I am wondering if anyone has tips for successful masking? My mom is also autistic, but she is someone quite the opposite of me. She has always been a non-demonstrative type. My friends were always afraid of her growing up. Somehow, I have taken the opposite path. I am overly familiar with others. It is something that even the culturally outgoing Americans cannot accept. Historically, I have tried masking my ASD with humor growing up and it came off as edgy. That's why I was able to pass. But, as one gets older, this type of humor is seen as mean-spirited. I am overly enthusiastic when meeting strangers and it is uncomfortable for others. Now, I am shunned by most. I often just stay home, even though I long to socialize with others. Can anyone share tips in masking techniques that have worked for them?
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  • Besides masking (or there may be some confusion around the term?) try the following:

    If you are like me, i need to be conscious of how much I talk, when I talk, and to allow space for the other to jump in with equal time. Listening is next and recording (in my mind) what's said for later exchanges, like, remembering that a person likes "Survivor". Then you can ask about that and lhey will talk and you can just listen.This took years for me to understand - perhaps it will much less for you. You can learn to see and enjoy the happiness the person expresses for the thing that they like.

    Watch "Love on the Spectrum." It is very inspiring and full of great tips for socializing.

  • No confusion on the term, 'masking'. I just find being myself is not a successful strategy

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