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Why sm i so angry that i was diagnosed as an adult and not when i was younger

fernminion95

i was diagnosed at 29 with autism, i have reached the anger stage of acceptance, i am not sure why i am so angry i think it is because if i was diagnosed earlier i may of received the help i needed at school and people would of treated me differently instead of bullying me, i went my whole life being bullied for being different, i also have fibromyalgia now so that doesn't help, i struggle to make friends i just keep myself to myself and do my work, does anyone have any advice, how did you feel when you were diagnosed later on in life. 

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  • I also felt some anger when I realised (without being diagnosed) that I could be autistic. For me, the anger was because I had spent a lot of my life trying to fit in with other people, copying what they did, "working" to do what other people just did naturally... and realised it was all for nothing, everything I did never paid off and it never would. Half my life gone and what had I to show for it? That led to a lot of confusing thoughts and emotions. It did pass eventually, because the next emotion I felt was depression (not acute depression, but a general feeling of "what's the point?"). And eventually that passed too with time to acceptance.

    I'm not an expert on psychology or take a huge interest in it, but I do occasionally think about it now and again, I suppose because psychology tries to define rules for how and why people think, which I find helpful. I have noticed, however, that the "7 stages of grief" doesn't just apply to grief, but any significant change in someone's life where they must process and finally accept an outcome. This applied in my situation too, because it took a long time to process and understand what this meant for my life, and I also went through these stages until I came out the other side happier that I felt I had a real identity now.

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  • I also felt some anger when I realised (without being diagnosed) that I could be autistic. For me, the anger was because I had spent a lot of my life trying to fit in with other people, copying what they did, "working" to do what other people just did naturally... and realised it was all for nothing, everything I did never paid off and it never would. Half my life gone and what had I to show for it? That led to a lot of confusing thoughts and emotions. It did pass eventually, because the next emotion I felt was depression (not acute depression, but a general feeling of "what's the point?"). And eventually that passed too with time to acceptance.

    I'm not an expert on psychology or take a huge interest in it, but I do occasionally think about it now and again, I suppose because psychology tries to define rules for how and why people think, which I find helpful. I have noticed, however, that the "7 stages of grief" doesn't just apply to grief, but any significant change in someone's life where they must process and finally accept an outcome. This applied in my situation too, because it took a long time to process and understand what this meant for my life, and I also went through these stages until I came out the other side happier that I felt I had a real identity now.

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