Published on 12, July, 2020
I have been with my partner for approximately 18 months. I did not know he was on the autistic spectrum when I met him but we moved in together and it became very evident. He is very intelligent but struggles with emotions and does not realise how rude and harsh he can be when talking to me or any of his friends. He has no self-awareness of how scary he can be. He has now developed a thing where he wakes up at 3 am most mornings and starts a conversation with me and I am absolutely shattered and finding it difficult to function properly in the day. I challenged him about it last night and now he ismt speaking to me. I don't know how much more I can cope with and I don't know how to resolve this without making him lose his temper.
I have no where else to go.…..
I agree with Pixie, acting like you're the centre of the universe and a partner only exists to fufill your needs is a very male thing, IF he's autistic then that could make less able to realise the effects of his behaviour on others, but it dosen't excuse it.
What do you fear will happen if he loses his temper? If you're physically afraid then wait until he's out and leave, if you're in the UK then contact Womens Aid, or the National Domestic Abuse Helpline, others will be better able to advise you on services in other countries.