Published on 12, July, 2020
I have been with my partner for approximately 18 months. I did not know he was on the autistic spectrum when I met him but we moved in together and it became very evident. He is very intelligent but struggles with emotions and does not realise how rude and harsh he can be when talking to me or any of his friends. He has no self-awareness of how scary he can be. He has now developed a thing where he wakes up at 3 am most mornings and starts a conversation with me and I am absolutely shattered and finding it difficult to function properly in the day. I challenged him about it last night and now he ismt speaking to me. I don't know how much more I can cope with and I don't know how to resolve this without making him lose his temper.
I have no where else to go.…..
Hi and welcome to the community.
I'm very sorry to hear about your struggles.
I strongly recommend reading this book, which addresses all manner of issues concerning neurotypical + neurodivergent relationships. Regardless of whether or not your partner is willing to join you in completing the various exercises, I suspect that you might the contents helpful:
Loving Someone with Asperger's Syndrome: Understanding and Connecting with your Partner