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When to tell my daughter I am autistic?

Nana1318

Hello to everyone, 

If something similar has been discussed on here previously I am sorry but I can't find anything similar. I am autistic mother of 6 years old girl. She is social, clever and happy little girl who likes to play with other children very much. 

I struggle with social aspects of parenting. I don't want her to miss out due to my disability but sometimes I just can't do things with her. She then gets upset and frustrated. 

My question is: when should I tell my daughter that I am autistic? And how? How can I explain to her that I struggle a lot with talking, meeting people and so on? Please if someone is or has been in similar situation may I ask for advice? 

I sometimes just want to tell her that I cannot do some things with her because I am autistic but I don't want her to worry about it and I don't know if it's appropriate for her to know that at her age? 

Any advice would be very much appreciated. 

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  • I’ve been thinking about the same thing. My daughter is almost 3, so it’s much too early. I think that 6 year old child will also not understand what is autism and what it means for you and for her. Maybe better is to just start explaining the symptoms, like that you are more sensitive, you need more solitude and relax, I’m not sure if 6 year old would understand and accept it, but maybe a best thing would be consulting this issue with a psychologist? My daughter is growing up seeing me with earplugs on daily basis so I’m sure one day she will ask why do I wear them since others don’t. I think I will explain to her the symptoms first and maybe disclose the whole truth when she grows up. I think it’s also important to emphasize that you are not ill or crazy, that we love our children and always will and we are still the same as they know us their whole lives. Such information may be shocking for the offspring no matter what age. But I would say best consult it. Maybe there is some publications I will try to find I got a link on my email from the site Asperger’s test site.

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  • I’ve been thinking about the same thing. My daughter is almost 3, so it’s much too early. I think that 6 year old child will also not understand what is autism and what it means for you and for her. Maybe better is to just start explaining the symptoms, like that you are more sensitive, you need more solitude and relax, I’m not sure if 6 year old would understand and accept it, but maybe a best thing would be consulting this issue with a psychologist? My daughter is growing up seeing me with earplugs on daily basis so I’m sure one day she will ask why do I wear them since others don’t. I think I will explain to her the symptoms first and maybe disclose the whole truth when she grows up. I think it’s also important to emphasize that you are not ill or crazy, that we love our children and always will and we are still the same as they know us their whole lives. Such information may be shocking for the offspring no matter what age. But I would say best consult it. Maybe there is some publications I will try to find I got a link on my email from the site Asperger’s test site.

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