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Feeling like I’m disliked/annoying everyone

Highland cows00

Does anyone else feel this way without having actual reason to? 
it can be someone’s tone of voice or their body language etc but it’s draining constantly feeling like it.

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  • Prior to retiring, I was taking on-line courses to become a special education teacher with an endorsement for autism. One of the courses I took was communication. I was surprised to learn that 70% of what non-autistic people say is modified through non-verbal communication i.e. body language and facial expressions. 

    A lot of autistic people don't pick up on this because our neurology and our tendency to have a literal mndset, predisposes us towards overly relying on the spoken word. 

    For example, many years ago I arrived at work early to find a colleague crying in the hallway. When I asked if she was okay, the woman, said, "I'm JUST FINE!"

    While I found myself wondering about her tone of voice, the fact that she had told me that she was fine was enough for me to continue on to my classroom. 

    I later learned that she had just received a call from the U.S. Consulate in Costa Rica. The Consulate had called because her adult son had been killed by a hit and run driver as he crossed the street. 

    I was roundly criticized by my colleagues for not having been more sensitive to the needs of this unfortunate woman. 

    (sigh)

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  • Prior to retiring, I was taking on-line courses to become a special education teacher with an endorsement for autism. One of the courses I took was communication. I was surprised to learn that 70% of what non-autistic people say is modified through non-verbal communication i.e. body language and facial expressions. 

    A lot of autistic people don't pick up on this because our neurology and our tendency to have a literal mndset, predisposes us towards overly relying on the spoken word. 

    For example, many years ago I arrived at work early to find a colleague crying in the hallway. When I asked if she was okay, the woman, said, "I'm JUST FINE!"

    While I found myself wondering about her tone of voice, the fact that she had told me that she was fine was enough for me to continue on to my classroom. 

    I later learned that she had just received a call from the U.S. Consulate in Costa Rica. The Consulate had called because her adult son had been killed by a hit and run driver as he crossed the street. 

    I was roundly criticized by my colleagues for not having been more sensitive to the needs of this unfortunate woman. 

    (sigh)

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