Published on 12, July, 2020
How do you cope in a world where you don't belong because how your brain works isolates you from a normal life and people? A brain that makes every day so much harder just to do standard activities, even simple but fundamental things like maintaining a conversation? It's such a lonely, heart-breaking life. Every day, surrounded by people who have got on with their lives... have friends, found a partner, living together, bought a house, got married, had kids, go on holidays... I have none of that. My brain is such a barrier to everything. And there's no cure.
DifferentNotDefective said: A brain that makes every day so much harder just to do standard activities, even simple but fundamental things like maintaining a conversation?
What is your brain good at then?
Mine is good at planning, learning and adapting so I worked out what the shortfalls were that stopped me being able to have convesations, relationships etc and found ways to learn a lot more about them, especially the social dynamics and rules around them.
Next I studied how to mask and script to be able to apply these and went out and got stuck in - made mistakes, learned from them and refined my techniques and now can pretty much pass as neuriotypical when I want to.
DifferentNotDefective said:My brain is such a barrier to everything
It is also the means to overcoming its limitations - concious decisions, discipline and willpower are the means of doing this.
Having said that, I found acting neurotypical didn't make me any happier. It does get some benefits (especially of the sexual kind) but I find being authentic makes me much happier.
Understanding and accepting yourself and living for that is what is the best from my perspective.