Published on 12, July, 2020
Hey guys I don’t get this I have went to autism groups for years and it is literally impossible to make friends with someone with autism. I have a friend who is autistic but they don’t even feel like a friend. Conversations are all one way my way. They just have generic responses to everything they have no opinions at all about anything. I find this really boring to be honest I want friends that will have an opinion and disagree with me now and again. Is this common for autistic people to be like this? I don’t know why I am not like that? I have opinions about everything and anything. I attended my autism group for the last time last week and it was a very strange experience indeed. I felt a bit uncomfortable as some of the autistic folks there it seemed like they were staring at me coldly or something. Yeh it was really weird. Is this normal? I mean I feel like I only look at someone briefly then look away and think about what I am going to say then talk then look them in the eyes when they are talking but no this guy was straight up staring at me for some reason. I didn’t say anything because he probably didn’t mean it. It’s just the way he is I suppose. I don’t think he meant any harm. But it was kinda weird at the time. Then I knew another autistic person that just straight up ignored you and acts legit stupid all the time. Are they doing this because they don’t like me or is it because that’s just the way they are? Anyway I am done with autistic groups. Yall on here seem alright but I dunno it’s just like all the autistic people I meet in real life just come across as complete a**holes for some reason. Forgive me they could just be really anxious and not mean to act like an a**hole all the time. But how would I know because they never tell me that they are anxious instead they just act like this towards me all the time and it makes me angry. Any help helps?
I've always found it hard to make friends with other Autistic people. Some times it can be harder than with NT's.
I agree 100%
I think you are on to something there...
I definitely am. Nt's are blander with less opinions, whereas two autists can clash.
Also, the more intelligent you are, the more stupidity you will notice. It enrages me every day of my life. Then when you do find intelligent people you cannot assume that they are also ethical. I'm debating other intelligent folk online every day at the moment but many do not totally agree with me. The 2010's essentially proved that the majority of Britons do not agree with me. Now I'm fighting a rearguard action against apparatchiks.I may as well just give up. And for large portions of each year, I do give up. But i've got a bee in my bonnet at the moment and an angel on my shoulder that says" don't let them win"Sigh.
A friend of mine coined the term "misagreeable", and although he wasn't thinking of us Autists at all....
I personally find that the Autism makes us be what my neighbor describes as "hard work" and I suggest that's becuse we get so much guff when we start out in life, that we develop a much lower tolerance for "guff" or in many cases hypervigilance.