Published on 12, July, 2020
Any time I start to talk about things that are important to me or just things I waited all day to talk to someone about I'll get interrupted, this happens with my family and friends. I tried for a very long time not to let it bother me but the other day I sort of snapped a little bit going off on my friends and girlfriend and angrily telling them how it makes me feel for now it seems to have stopped my friends and girlfriend from doing it but I still deal with it from my family and getting angry at them and yelling at them will just cause more issues. Yes, I know waiting till I'm angry is not a good approach but I often struggle with saying things in a way that hurts people's feelings and that causes the same reaction I get when I just get angry so I'm not sure what to do and how to handle issues like this. Yes I am an autistic adult I'm 20 and got diagnosed when I was in 5th grade but was only told about it in 2022 so I have never really been able to talk to someone about it and get an understanding of it, it doesn't help living in a place where that kind of help is hard to get as the only place I could go to near me acts like you are lying about everything. I'm sorry this is kind of all over the place but I have so much I'd like to talk to other people about that understand me. Thanks to anyone who gives advice or words of encouragement.
Whistler is totally right about interruptions being 'normal'. But it's not just non-autistics. I went on a social with an autistic group last week and it was hard to get a word in.
One technique that I have learned in my long years is this - put your hand up (almost as if you are still in school maybe not so high but just enough so that people can see) The important thing is to do it with a smile on your face. Another important thing is not to overuse this technique either. Once or twice per meet up is probably enough.