Published on 12, July, 2020
I used to not say anything because I hate confrontation but as I’ve gotten older it’s stronger and I feel I need to do something about it. So I end up doing or saying things more so which I feel is right and justified in the moment but then I can’t cope with the backlash and I end up second guessing myself and having major panics that the other person will do something awful to me as a result.
I always handle things the wrong way.
I'm always sticking my head above the parapet and getting shot al, I've leared to duck fast and well. The other thing I've found as I get older is that I care less about not offending other people, some of the things people do offend me, why does my sense of offence matter less than theirs? I can't say that I like confrontation, but I'm less avoident of it than I used to be and I feel more grounded in my ability to make my case and stand my ground.
I think we need to ask ourselves what is the "trouble" we fear we're get in?