Aspie Verbosity as a problem to NTs

Thanks for your replies ladies.  DaisyGirl you sound like me.  Apparently I come across OK in person (but then that is with friends who have advocated for me and given me input) but facing intimidating situations alone, I find it harder.

I confess it does grate that professionals have this attitude, Joe Public should be compliant and do as they are told.  Where is the culture of mutual respect, respect for parents (as well as individuals with ASC)?

I too am totally exhausted from years of being NT-like, and I think now the facade is slipping a little as it's too hard to maintain and NTs make assumptions based on their NT perspective which are unfavourable to someone with AS.  I read somewhere that female Aspies cry really easily, and it's true in my case, if people confront me I too fall to pieces and can't keep the tears in.  It frustrates me to lose control that way because I feel crying is a weakness, but my body doesn't listen to me.  I feel that no professional will respect you if you start crying (NT empathy 'aint always what it's cracked up to be!)

Coogybear, NTs just don't like detail.  I don't know why, I feel they should be grateful that you explained something so well, and appreciate that it gives them the full picture.  But they don't.  They are either too lazy to read it or it stresses them out and they just see it as something insurmountable.  I mean, I don't present a wall of text, I punctuate and use paragraphs, and even check it reads logically and flows OK and makes sense.  People don't want to spend a little bit of time.  And bearing in mind that verbally, is very hit and miss sometimes for me, I like to give things in writing to get it across.  Processing delays in conversation also mean I might understand what is being said at the time, but not process the full context or implications of it.  I get a delayed reaction to those things a lot of the time.

I also get the minutiae thing totally.  A friend of mine, who seems to have one foot in neurodiversity and one in NT so is a good friend to have, explained to me that I give equal weight to all details.  This was an excellent way of putting it.  It's true, and I couldn't say it better.

I'm also like you, very passive (although I am also a bit extreme in emotions, so when I am any particular emotion, I am really that emotion) so left to my own devices I am placid.  But as I said, if I'm upset the tears pour easily.  If I am humoured I will really crack up, but if someone has offended me I also perseverate on it and just think "how could they do that" and the empathy side means I wouldn't instinctively look for causes or excuse their behaviour.  It's a bit of a roller coaster.

I thought I was anxious, and I think I sort of am, but it's kept in check very well unless other people cause me anxiety!  It's mostly from the actions or words of others that I get anxious.  I think this speaks to the NT world being challenging generally for us because the sorts of NT behaviours we regularly encounter are either illogical, unacceptable or unfair to us.

Thanks for your replies ladies.  DaisyGirl you sound like me.  Apparently I come across OK in person (but then that is with friends who have advocated for me and given me input) but facing intimidating situations alone, I find it harder.

I confess it does grate that professionals have this attitude, Joe Public should be compliant and do as they are told.  Where is the culture of mutual respect, respect for parents (as well as individuals with ASC)?

I too am totally exhausted from years of being NT-like, and I think now the facade is slipping a little as it's too hard to maintain and NTs make assumptions based on their NT perspective which are unfavourable to someone with AS.  I read somewhere that female Aspies cry really easily, and it's true in my case, if people confront me I too fall to pieces and can't keep the tears in.  It frustrates me to lose control that way because I feel crying is a weakness, but my body doesn't listen to me.  I feel that no professional will respect you if you start crying (NT empathy 'aint always what it's cracked up to be!)

Coogybear, NTs just don't like detail.  I don't know why, I feel they should be grateful that you explained something so well, and appreciate that it gives them the full picture.  But they don't.  They are either too lazy to read it or it stresses them out and they just see it as something insurmountable.  I mean, I don't present a wall of text, I punctuate and use paragraphs, and even check it reads logically and flows OK and makes sense.  People don't want to spend a little bit of time.  And bearing in mind that verbally, is very hit and miss sometimes for me, I like to give things in writing to get it across.  Processing delays in conversation also mean I might understand what is being said at the time, but not process the full context or implications of it.  I get a delayed reaction to those things a lot of the time.

I also get the minutiae thing totally.  A friend of mine, who seems to have one foot in neurodiversity and one in NT so is a good friend to have, explained to me that I give equal weight to all details.  This was an excellent way of putting it.  It's true, and I couldn't say it better.

I'm also like you, very passive (although I am also a bit extreme in emotions, so when I am any particular emotion, I am really that emotion) so left to my own devices I am placid.  But as I said, if I'm upset the tears pour easily.  If I am humoured I will really crack up, but if someone has offended me I also perseverate on it and just think "how could they do that" and the empathy side means I wouldn't instinctively look for causes or excuse their behaviour.  It's a bit of a roller coaster.

I thought I was anxious, and I think I sort of am, but it's kept in check very well unless other people cause me anxiety!  It's mostly from the actions or words of others that I get anxious.  I think this speaks to the NT world being challenging generally for us because the sorts of NT behaviours we regularly encounter are either illogical, unacceptable or unfair to us.